So a little TMI, but just wondering if any other mamas have gone through this, or have any advice.
Me and my boyfriend haven’t had sex in about 3ish months, mainly because of me being so tired all the time(of course) and the sciatica I have. Saturday was our anniversary and I miss being so close to him, so I figured I’d make his night and finally try and start something. Even when he was just touching me it felt like I was on fire down there, and I tried to ignore it, but when he was inside of me it hurt so badly that I wanted to cry. I didn’t tell him at first because I felt sooo bad, and it makes me feel terrible, like I can’t satisfy him, and of course HE felt terrible because he was hurting me and didn’t know. So we decided to just stop all together. And on top of it my back started hurting sooo bad (from the sciatica) that I DID cry afterwards and could barely even walk.
I’m assuming everything is just swollen and that’s why it hurt so bad, but I’m not positive? Not that I feel like he will go elsewhere, and he’s so understanding about it, but I feel like I’m depriving him and it makes me feel like such a shitty girlfriend nonetheless. We used to fool around alllllll the time, and I’m missing the intimacy hardcore. So any ladies have any advice on anything I can try, why it’s happening, positions that won’t hurt my back so bad? ANY ADVICE AT ALL REALLY. I’m desperate 😫😫😫
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@nalahoney, ahh I give you props girl!!! I couldn’t do that either cause it hurt sooo freaking bad 😂😂 Obviously not from the pregnancy lmfao but I def couldn’t do it again 😂 I’m all for giving him head! I just know that usually ends in sex though too, cause I actually really enjoy it an get into it with him lol!
My first pregnancy we ended up doing anal a lot because of vaginal pain and pelvic rest and there is always oral if you have the patience for it lol
@nalahoney, Hmm I didn’t even think about trying in the shower! I’m terrified I’ll fall 😂 But that sounds like a good idea!! I’ll definetely try that, and the other positions! I’m down to try whatever to make my man happy, I feel so bad for him 😂😂 Hormonal all the time AND no sex, poor guy 😂😩
@damiensmommy1117, Definetely can’t lay on my stomach anymore (I miss that 😂) baby boy is getting a little too big for that! But I’ll definetely try the lube! I didn’t think about trying to be on top, I guess I just figured that would hurt even more for some reason, and I feel like the position would give me a leg cramp 😂😂 I’m going to try that though!!! The last time we did it it hurt bad too, just not as bad as this time and I think that’s why I was put off it for so long! But I miss being close to my man 😩 So I’m going to try all your suggestions! Thank you SO much girl!!!! ❤️❤️
All the fluid makes it swollen and really tender the same thing happened to me with my first and this one. I find that being on my hands and knees or laying on my side is best with a decent amount of lube. As long as he's gentle I can normally keep it together so he can finish. Or even try in the shower the hot water may soothe your back pain and keep everything sliding just the right way. I don't prefer it honestly because I get really tired but it works in a pinch.
Idk if you still can, but I have to lay on my stomach still to help with back pain or on my side if my son is sticking out too much. You can try to use some pregnancy safe numbing lubricant and be on top so you can control how fast and far in he goes. When I went about two and a half months without sex in the beginning of my pregnancy it hurt when we started up again too.
@bklosxo, getting desperate makes you hella creative. I also got anal numbing lube from the sex shop and whipped out like a champ