So, every time my 'best friend' is over and visits Lachlan, if she's holding him she sticks her finger in his mouth so he can suck on it. Doesn't wash her hands first, doesn't ask me if it's okay and even does it if he's not crying. It pisses me off to no end and I've told her not to but she keeps doing it. Is it acceptable to cuss her out if she does it again?
@aussiekiss, my son is already my best friend and he'll only be a month old this Monday
i understand darling bt to be honest as the years roll by u will see how unimportant friends are to begin w and how ur children turn into ur bestfriends. im 29 w 2 kids & im finally to the point of screw friends they really dont have ur best interest. she didnt seem like much of a friend anyway w her response to the well being of ur new baby.
@aussiekiss, I feel so much better! But I'm sad now because I don't have many friends to begin with, not even mom friends. I have one mom friend and my cousin
welp bye bish when u have kids disrespectful ass friends are nt allowed. good for u im glad u stood up for ur baby i bet u feel better huh?!
Exactly!! Like, I was super upset before but now I'm livid because she had the audacity to be offended.. I hate having friends who don't have kids because they don't understand
@mykennamburns, that's crazy that she would even be offended. It's not her kid
Who wants anybody sticking a finger in their child's mouth. A baby at that!
I just ended up telling her not to worry about it anymore because she won't be around him
She needs to shut up. It's not up for debate. Keep your fingers out of his mouth period. Washed or Unwashed
@mykennamburns yeah thats when i would do it too. I actually learned that at the hospital because the nurses would do it cause i was having problems getting him to latch so they did that to see if he was even hungry. I started doing it at home until we both realized my finger was his binky but again it was my finger and i always washed my hands first. They are OUR kids though if we want to stick OUR fingers in their mouth then we can but for someone else to do it, especially without washing their hands. No I'd be livid
She proceeded to argue the point with me. Needless to say, I'm not going to allow her to hold him ever again
@mykennamburns, momma, do not let her touch your baby if she is not washing her hands I was the same way. Their immune system starts to regulate around 3 months until then cleanliness of others is ideal. My son is almost 5 months and I'm not as strict with it, I just have my mom wash her hands before touching him because she smokes and she's not allowed to lay him belly to belly either unless there's a barrier, my MIL gets pissy if someone asks her to wash her hands when she'll be touching spicy things. I don't give a fuck if anyone gets offended because it's my responsibility to protect him and speak for him because he can't.
@avahcruz, she never washes her hands and it's nasty. He's MY son and even I wash my hands all the time before touching him
@mykennamburns, she should wash her hands if she's gonna touch him, period. That's so disrespectful.
@avahcruz, I told her that next time she comes over to not put her hands anywhere near his face, especially if her hands aren't washed. If she does, I'm probably going to smack her and never invite her back
She doesn't need to be in your house around YOUR baby if she can't keep her hands out of his mouth. His immune system is so incredibly fragile right now and a little sickness to us could be very life threatening to him. That's disgusting. If she can't respect you as a friend and parent she needs to go.
Like, he's a month old now. She started doing it when he was one week old.
@torrey_, @damiensmommy1117, @noahs.mommy, I hardly let him suck on my finger, I only do it when he's crying to check if he's hungry. His dad does the same thing as me. No one else ever does it except for her and it pisses me the fuck off
I'm sorry that happened but you have to be the advocate for your child so you did the right thing💕