I'm so worried about my daughter.. she is 12, turning 13 next month. I'm afraid she's suffering from…

The best thing my dad ever did for me was take me to talk to someone about everything that was going on. It may be a good idea for your daughter to do the same. I got the help I needed. Also I don't know the custody laws of your state but in Wisconsin a child 12 or older is old enough to make the choice whether or not they want to go to the other parents house. Even if his visitation is court ordered. If she's old enough then she can choose to not go. But I would definitely see about getting her in to talk to someone.

I hope your daughter feels better mentally! Try having a few mommy daughter days or night cuddles so she knows that she has you no matter how old she gets. She's never too old for a cuddle.

And try to keep her separate from all of that drama.

Especially Facebook. When I was a kid I was never in "grown people stuff" and I especially wouldn't have responded to an adults BS drama

Again. I hope your daughter gets better. She's going through enough changes as it is. Physically! She's about to be a teenager. Sweet girl

@db413, she's been seeing a counselor for the past year now at least, but she is so much worse now than before. It's taken it's toll on her so much. She talks about giving up. I'm so scared. I've even gone to see a lawyer (before this past weekend) and he told me there is no set age in SC and she's a little too young so he doesn't think she could speak for herself now. I think it's total bs! She doesn't want to go and I don't blame her all they do is trash me and she loves me so of course that hurts her! They don't care what they are doing to her and it's killing me. 😪

@brookemmoore, a gaurdian at litem can sit down and talk with her. Especially if she's already been in counseling. For me counseling did nothing I had to see a psychiatrist and be put on medication. And it is complete bs that she can't think for herself. At 14 I knew well enough what I wanted and that just so happened to be kicking my mother out of my life. I believe your daughter is old enough to know that she doesn't want to go to her dads. To me it sounds like her being there is doing her psychological damage. Which should be grounds to change the custody order.

@db413, I agree she should be able to speak for herself she's a very smart girl. I have full custody, he only has visitation but two weekends a month is still too much at this point because he's done so much damage already. I'm trying to get her in to see a real psychiatrist but they are taking forever to give me an appointment

@brookemmoore, hopefully once she sees a real psychologist then may be able to recommend his visitation be removed if he's caused enough damage. The courts look for the best interest of the child. And as of right now she's being harmed psychologically being at his house.

@db413, I sure hope they can. I have to save my child somehow. I can't stand seeing her like this. She deserves so much better she's such a loving child. I hate it so much 😪

In my opinion your DD is old enough to make the decision on whether or not she wants to go to her dad's. If she doesn't want to you can always gather all the evidence you need take her with you to the court house and have her ask to have any/all visitation dropped. If the child is old enough to make that choice the courts will take it into consideration.

@mommiesaremagical14, I agree but the lawyer I saw says she's not old enough, even though there is no magical age. I hate our stupid laws and lack of clear laws.

@brookemmoore Have you looked into: Title 63- south Carolina children's code. Section 63 15 30 does state that the child's preference must be taken into consideration.

It sucks but unless you take him back to court to have the visitation removed she has to go see him. We went through it with my dad too. The court said the only way I could decide to not see him is if I was 18.

I'm sorry he's causing so much hurt and discontent to you and your family.

Take her to court. She shouldn't be able to be around her if she's that crazy.

And like someone else said I would have mommy daughter time with your daughter and just have a fun time with her and let her know how much YOU love her. I'm so sorry you all are going through this.

She has an album about you? Wtf? I am pretty sure you can get a restraining order against her because this is harassment. Have you looked into that? I haven't read all the comments so I'm not sure if you mentioned it, but if you successfully get a restraining order automatically your daughter won't have to be around your ex because it sounds like he and his gf are a package deal. She sounds like a teenage girl. How very sad. I'm so sorry, love ❤️

@missliss, yes she does! 4 years worth of her stalking and screen shotting things on my account and my husbands! She's crazy and apparently very sad with my ex since she is so obsessed with me! I did not know that about a restraining order. I will definitely have to check that out!