I'm not married to my soon to be daughters father. But we are committed and will be in the future.…
I'm not married to my soon to be daughters father. But we are committed and will be in the future. We talk about it a lot. I'm not even engaged. But when I told my bf her last name was going to be my last name he didn't like it and said that was weird. Legally her last name is mine unless I choose his last name for her. But I'm feeling really uneasy about giving her his last name not because I don't love him or want to marry him but because I have always said if you aren't married to your kids father it's pretty stupid to give the kid his last name. Plus I have an 8 year old son who has my last name and I'm very cautious about them being treated the same and I want them to have the same last name. And now on Fb he posts a picture of my stomach saying her name with his last name. I'm nervous to talk to him about it again because I don't want to cause an argument. We haven't discussed it since I was around 7 weeks. I'm not 28 weeks..
Kimberly ·
In the hospital they'll refer to baby with your last name. I think it's your decision. My first son has my maiden name and my second son has my husband's last name even though we weren't married at the time. I think it's a personal decision. You can always change their last names to your future husband's last name in the future.
Lindsay·
To each their own. I'm not married to the father of my baby but we will be eventually. I don't feel it's stupid to give a child her/his father's name. I feel it's a personal decision and everyone's situation is different.
Kelsey·
Мама двоих (младенец)
If i wasn't married the baby would have my name. Last name comes with the piece of paper (marriage certificate) in my opinon
Tayler·
This is my opinion so don't take any offense! Just giving my input. I feel that women don't make babies alone, and if the father is going to be there for the child whether you are with or not, it's only fair that the child gets his or her father's last name. If the roles were switched, I would be so devastated. I gave my first daughter her dad's last name, it was a hard decision considering I was 17.. but I felt the same way I do now. 5 years later her dad is not in her life and hasn't been since she was 1 (his decision) and of course I have regrets on passing his last name down, however, her name defines her and I don't plan on changing it. She will find a good man one day to give him his last name.. Now I'm engaged to a wonderful man, and we may or may not be together forever, but I am giving our daughter his last name, He's been there since day one, for me and for my daughter, he deserves for all of his children whether with me or someone else, to have his last name.
Amanda·
Мама сына (8 лет)
@kimberlyyyy_the-preemie-mom that's what I said but he really doesn't like it. When we're married he's adopting my son to have his last name also. So we already have to do a name change
Amanda·
Мама сына (8 лет)
@kmharr3 me to. Plus if something were to happen which I don't see it happening, I would want her with my last name. I just want my whole family with one last name.
chelli·
I would do it since he going to be in her life I didn't give my youngest son his dad name because he wasn't in the picture at all
Amanda·
Мама сына (8 лет)
@chelli I guess I'm just old school and don't want my son to not have his siblings last name. But of course I never wanted another kid outside of marriage either.. It's all uneasy at the same time I really wanted another kid and am so excited. My mind is just uneasy about it all
chelli·
You have time to think on it and make the best decision