( i need advice ) so me and my boyfriend been together for a long time we are expecting our second…

If you WANT to work it out and so does he then your relationship CAN get better. trust me. my husband and I were in a terrible place last year when we met. We fought all the fucking time and we both had really bad anger problems, still do, so I never liked the way he disaplined my older children. So we were always breaking up and stuff. But we realized that we loved each other and were truly soul mates so decided to BOTH make an effort to change things. we changed the way we communicate, we don't hold things back like emotions of anger or sadness etc, we know when to shut up and pick and choose our battles, and all of this was done slowly over time since last year. Every day we grow closer and our bond gets stronger and it's because we need each other. Anything is possible when you try. You can have what you want but you have to work for it. On both parts. So you gotta ask yourself; do you want to keep trying or do you want to start over?

@beebaby, lol no

@ilovemychildren I honestly feel like I don't want to be with him because it's gonna be another bad result if I try again and it's pointless to waste my time I'm just not in love with him anymore but I love him that's what is holding me here now

@marieebaby follow your heart! I met my now husband two days after I left my ex husband who was abusive. Everything happens for a reason and you'll find your soul mate!

I know how you are feeling, and I'm sorry you're going through this. I totally get the wanting to leave but not wanting to leave. Only you can make the final decision, but I know how scary it is to face the thought of leaving. My ex husband of 9 years, was emotionally and verbally abusive and did a whole lot of gaslighting. He was cheating on me (I didn't know, but I have to add, with a 17 year old employee we were 32) and treating me terrible and like everything was my fault and I still would not leave. We tried therapy and then one day, it hit me. I don't love him. I'm not sure if I ever really did... So I left. And honestly... As hard as it was to leave that life behind, I can honestly say it was the best decision of my life. Im now with my husband the kindest loving man I've ever met, and pregnant! Which was never going to happen if I stayed in that life. What I'm trying to say, is, if you are not happy, you should leave, because life is too short to be unhappy. You will find a balance in co parenting, and one day, you'll be happy! now, if you want to work on it, then go to couples therapy and really truly work in finding each other again, because not all relationships are like mine, and you could find your way back to him. If you truly don't see that happening, go do you. You need to be happy. Good luck!