This whole trusting thing just isn't gonna work for me. Constantly wondering what he's doing behind…

As hard as it could be

Yes you don't need that in your life!

You deserve to be stress free from what ever is drowning you down. Trust is gained and it's his job to make you feel secure not insecure.

Hope you feel better!

@vivian_loves_abisai Thank you, it's nice to know other people understand where I'm coming from because he obviously doesnt.

@acesmomma, yea girl definitely I understand!

I used to feel the same when I was with my ex and man it was so hard being in that relationship I was so unhappy and always with that gut feeling he was doing something and I always wanted to be on him. Don't get me wrong I wasn't a jealous person but once they mess up you can't be the same anymore trust is lost and then they make you feel like you're wrong in everything and you're over reacting. I was with my ex for 5 years and I swear I thought I was gonna be sooo unhappy for ever , I was depressed and felt so lonely . Until I had to make a choice, it was the hardest decision ever but I am sooo happy I did! I started to live again ! I realized there was so much to live for.

@vivian_loves_abisai I love him, I really do, just tired of feeling like this almost EVERY SINGLE DAY! Something's gotta give. I wana trust him, just doubt I'll ever be able to 100%. It definitely is the worst feeling ever. UGH

@acesmomma, do you ever consider marriage counseling?

@vivian_loves_abisai I do, but he probably doesnt. If I mention it he would probably just laugh in my face. Thinking I'm crazy lol

@acesmomma, yea lol mostly men's don't like going to counseling. Well then have talks about how and what he can do to gain your trust! If he cares about the relationship! But if he doesn't want to then i don't know girl the truth is he just doesn't care . Cuz y'all gotta work together and build yourselves up to be better and get along.

@vivian_loves_abisai I agree. Idk I hate brining it up because it always starts an argument.

@acesmomma, well maybe you can set a date and go out like normal and just tell him that you love him a lot and tell him how you feel without arguing or throwing things in his face just a normal chat and say what you wish could change so you can feel secure. And if it's starts to lead to a fight just stop there and wait for another moment.

@vivian_loves_abisai I could try that.

@acesmomma, hopefully you'll feel better!

If you ever need to just vent I'm here! Good luck!