Can I just express some feelings really quick?
Can I just express some feelings really quick?
To make a long story short, I married a man who was the youngest of 4 sisters and a bitter divorced mom. My in laws are extremely controlling, don't really know their places and never really accepted my daughter and I into the family. Instead, since I was marrying their baby brother, saw me more as a threat.
Should I expect the worse from them when our son is born? Is it natural to feel like my motherhood is threatened by these women?
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I would at least be prepared for the worst if they already treat you different. Just be ready to put your foot down when they try to do things with the baby or try to control things that they shouldn't have a say in.
Tasha·
Мама дочки (8 лет), беременна (27 нед.)
@damien1117 I'm ready. Just hoping my husband backs me up instead of enabling them ....
Skyler·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
Same situation, I'm a threat to my mil mainly not his sisters except 1. Its hard but mainly frustrating to me. My hubby is the youngest of 9 I "stole" my mils baby 🙄
Tasha·
Мама дочки (8 лет), беременна (27 нед.)
@skyy12221 I hate being in this situation. Like your brother proposed to me, I didn't ask for all this mess.
Skyler·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
@tasharoshell exactly! Plus his family is the exact opposite of mine I'm not used to it so I constantly hear how my hubby is used to things being a certain way cause he grew up like that I didn't. I got lectured today matter of fact and sometimes parenting is hard cause he does it his way how he grew up and I do it my way so he tells me to stop being so soft on our oldest and stop cuddling him cause he's a "grown man" in his words. I don't participate when his family gets together cause I'm not used to how they talk, act, etc.
chelli·
You speak to your husband about how you feel. Y'all a team you're his family he needs to have your back.
Tasha·
Мама дочки (8 лет), беременна (27 нед.)
@skyy12221 sounds like we're in the exact same situation!!!
Skyler·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
@tasharoshell it sucks but it sounds like it lol I know how you feel and where you're coming from
Tasha·
Мама дочки (8 лет), беременна (27 нед.)
@skyy12221 soooo how do you deal?! Because I can't operate feeling like my motherhood, my opinion, the way I raise my son, will be challenged at every opportunity.
Skyler·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
@tasharoshell I stick up for myself and sometimes I just let my mil talk so she can get it out and I won't say nothing but then eventually I snap at some point but she's so sensitive that I could say something and she get offended and her feelings get hurt. Most of the time my hubby doesn't know about these arguments. It is frustrating especially when parenting the kids or how to be a wife comes into play. I almost left last week to go to my moms cause I couldn't take it but (mainly because of how hubby was acting) but now his mom is killing me. I try to focus on myself and my kids, I'm currently in counseling, I started when I was pregnant with my second but mg counselor tells me I need to decide if I stay or leave there's so much more to the story so I haven't gotten too far with how to handle things except for what I've done so far.