Ok so hubby and I both had a huge fight last night where I screwed up badly and we got into the conversation on that I…

I have and have to make him feel appreciated once in awhile like surprising him randomly.

Yes, men love to feel like they are being appreciated, kind words showing that you see him and his efforts work along with surprising him with something he loves.

Try to be more intimate with him.

It's good that he's telling you, he's crying out for you, should definitely try to improve in those areas.

You're 38 weeks pregnant, at this stage you should be getting all the rest you can. You might want to talk about how it's going to be once your 2nd one is for the first few months. @amelliaholmes1457,

@deafmama16 like what did you do

@icestorm1123 yea I fail on his birthday when I should have set it up instead of him doing it.

@michelle- oh he knows that but everyonce in a while do things with him or get something for him

@amelliaholmes1457 it's good you have taken notice, and that's always the first step. You can always make it up, besides you are about to have a baby so I also understand how you may be not fulfilling his needs completely., there is still hope and yall gotta work together.

It took my husband and I 4 years to halfway get a clue lol and we've been together 5 years coming in August.

@amelliaholmes1457 keep house clean, give him candies on random days, let him go out and bunch of kisses

@amelliaholmes1457 but try to make it up, nice reassuring words, favorite meal he likes etc. He'd be grateful.

You don't want him going astray and find other outlets to cope.

Communicate, figure out what he needs and explain what you need, it goes both ways. Communication will solve half the battle

@icestorm1123 oh wow yea I hope and pray that I can fix this we've been together four years

@amelliaholmes1457 yall both can, I'm glad he came to you about it. Most men I know don't.

But it's a teamwork thing, not just you. Yall will get better, keep hope alive.

@icestorm1123 Oh I will 100% and I'm worst fear is,loosing him and he's always told,me I'm still aren't I I'm not going anywhere and always reminds me what,have I told before after we got married that he would never leave me because my worst fear is becoming as my mother and thats how her and dad divorced each other and he saw that because my mom thinks he's gonna turn out like my dad which he says he won't and I know he won't but seeing dreams of him leaving me scares me.

@amelliaholmes1457 I don't think he'll leave you, and I know how scary that can be. When my husband and I were on horrible terms he's told me he just felt like leaving. So i know how horrible that feels.

But as long as you do your part and put your all in yalls marriage I'm sure yall will be straight, and even if he does decide to leave..you know it wasn't because you

But I do hope he does his part and not just tell you what you're doing wrong, I hope he gives you what you need to make you happy.

Not many will tell how they feel, they will just seek comforts else where. For him, it's a cry out to you. I think you all will be fine once the baby comes. Just keep that communication barrier open to where he feels that he can come to you about how he is feeling without feeling funny about it. Cuz men are very prideful about expressing their feelings. But prayer always works👏🏽

@teresajames317 Yea cause he told me that when he tells me what's wring with him I shut him down like Im saying go fuck off and he told me thats the reason why he won't tell me anything when something's bothering him and when i heard that i felt horrible and upset with myself for doing that to him but I will fix it.

@teresajames317 yes prayers do work especially talking to him helps to.

Sometimes we don't mean to come off a certain way. Maybe how you look at him when he is opening up comes off that way. I know I definitely need work on my facial expressions but sometimes I just can't help myself.

@teresajames317 yea also I my tone yo the way it sounds over the phone so that's also the way to I gotta work on my tone when I talk to him. Cause usually when I talk to him to get up for work he thinks that I'm yelling at him when I'm not but yea.

Yea it can make him feel a way also. Coming off offensive and making him feel small. You know they NEED to feel like they are the man, not us. I know I can be super aggressive, but that's just how I was brought up, and being in the Army..lol. So I don't be meaning to, but I come off like I'm the man n he's the woman. Can't do that. If a man don't have nothing, they're protective about their pride and ego. Trust me.

@teresajames317 oh I hear ya and your not your putting your point across and I get yea I've got things to fix,and to work on I tried to get him his other ps4 remote because he broke it because of me running off again and i know not good to do that,either and he told me no that he will do with the other one and i oh ok will I feel bad that yours is broken and he said that he will be find and I feel sooo bad that I can't get him one.