This might seem a little weird but I woke up this morning and my fiancé acted like he wasnt doing…

Have you asked him about it? My hubby does that I found out when we talk when I don't give him sex na while. I don't physically feel like it all the time maybe 2 to 4 days in a row n he does it. Maybe you should talk to him about it.

@saniyyahhasan yea I texted him right after I figured it out because he left for work right after. He tried changing the subject then said if Im going to act like that about it he isn't gonna talk to me at all today.

He feeling embarrassed? Not sure what to say about that. Just don't bring it up for a while men have their issues that is sensitive to them. Me....I would let it go n figure out a way to get bits n piece of what going on if it's something I'm not doing or is it just him a one time thing or what....Sometimes men won't tell you some things at one time but will at the right time.It's just about timing (with my hubby anyways)

I didn't even know that my hubby jerk off till we was having a conversation about my physical discomforts n why I'm not into sex at that time. He told me n I was shocked bc I never knew that I thought he just sucked it up n waited on me lol. I guess that was to let me know I need to put effort into his needs.

What made you think he's involved with someone else? Him doing that or did he take his phone or something?

I deal with this, except he does it in the shower. He may be embarrassed to tell you about it or even feel ashamed. My boyfriend was afraid to tell me that sometimes he just can't have sex because he can't help but think about the baby, especially since he can't lay on top of me anymore because of the bump. I don't really think it's anything to worry about hon.

I get offended too. But the way I feel is, if he's taking care of it himself then I'm not doing my job and toking care of him. Makes me feel like I'm not good enough. I know it's not true. But that's just how I feel in the moment. 😕

@sparklymama he was on his phone in bed when he thought I was sleeping. I was facing the other way when I turned around he put his phone down and got up and went to the bathroom.

@babyboy1117 @mrs.ray2016 it makes me feel like he is thinking about someone else or something because he felt like he had to hide it from me. When he came back in and then left to go pee he was sure to say that he had to pee again. Like wtf. The thing is I try to do things with him and he will shoo me away. Tell me to stop messing with him. It also doesn't help that recently when we went into his work together him and a coworker were literally flirting right in front of my face.

@newmommyathenia, ugh. Thats so disrespectful. But at least he leaves to do it. Mine does it while we're laying in bed and I'm trying to sleep. So I'm just like "what the hell." Makes me so mad.

@mrs.ray2016 he only left because I woke up and turned around though. I dunno. He never wants anything to do with me anymore and this was a huge blow to my confidence. Like I know I wasnt awake or whatever but why did he have to act all suspicious about it. I just hope he isn't off thinking about someone else because Im not good enough or whatever.

@newmommyathenia, hopefully not. I'm sure that's not what it is. He might just be embarrassed. I don't know. Guys are confusing.

Okay well, he might not feel comfortable having sex right now because of the baby and he just doesn't know how to tell you without making you feel bad. He was probably looking at porn, kind of getting ready to masturbate before he actually went, that's what my boyfriend does at least.

But as for the flirting thing you need to shut that shit down. Tell him you saw it and that it is not okay. Maybe tell him you're feeling insecure and that looking at his phone will help you feel better, my boyfriend let me do that, but Idk how yours is... if he gets super defensive when you ask about his phone, then I would get worried, but you have to tell him you don't care about any porn you find on there because he might just be getting defensive over porn and there might not be anything else to worry about.

Yeah did you catch him masturbating before and complained or have you complained about not getting enough sex? I know these are weird questions but it could be the reason why he's hiding it

I would think porn honestly

@newmommyathenia, now that right there, we definitely would've had a problem. N it does seem sneaky how he going about the situation. I don't have a problem with my guy jacking off but it's how you go about doing it. Yes, some may feel ashamed but if you already in the bed doing it then gone ahead and finish. Whenever the timing is right..we will definitely have to have that talk. May be some tension at the time but it's not good holding it in. Because I'll start to think something else is going on.