I'm so tired of coming in second. My husband's ex is always using their kids to get what she wants from him. She has custody and we have visitation. That's what she wanted when they went to court. We are supposed to have them every other weekend and one day a wee, which we do. But she tells him she will leave them home alone if he doesn't come get them, so of course he does. Or she puts them in activities and sports, when she doesn't drive or have transportation, and expects us to take them. So now my whole week has to be rearranged due to the fact that he chooses to please her. I feel like he loves her more and does more for her than he ever will me. After almost 4 years of being married I'm sick of it. They haven't been together in over 6 years, but he is always kissing her ass. Then he acts like I have an issue with my step kids, which isn't true. I have an issue with their mother using my husband. I don't mind having them when we are supposed to. I love them, not their mother. Besides all of this, we have never claimed them on taxes, because she always does, which is contempt, we are supposed to every other year. And he pays child support. So she gets money to support them when they are with her, so why can't she get a baby sitter or pay someone to give them a ride if they need it? I'm just so tired of crying and him not caring. I just my ass to take care of all of us, I swear I just want to be done so bad. I get more support from my damn self then from him anyways. Sorry rant over.