How do you co parent with someone who doesn't communicate and who plainly just doesn't give a shit?…

If there's no communication you can't really co parent. Just do the best on your part I guess.

Yeah but he has joint custody of our son. He's going with him for the first time overnight and he's being kind of an asshole with not responding about stuff. Like its important and I had to take my son to the ER last week after he was with him for only two hours because he was having a really bad allergic reaction to something his father gave him or had him in. So it's important for him to communicate with me when I'm trying to just be s good mom to my son and look out for him and his dad doesn't give a shit obviously 😟@cubanese, @ilovemychildren,

@missjess yeah my ex husband has custody of my three older children and it drives me crazy because I never know what's going on with them. Like who is watching them. My oldest had a reaction to medicine a couple weeks ago and had to miss our visit. I was devastated. But me and him don't talk. He hates me for leaving him. So I know its hard to be in a situation like that. Hang in there

That's a hard one. I'm a stay at home mom and I have two step kids and trying to communicate with their mom is near impossible sometimes it doesn't matter if it's me or my husband. She has said their her kids and she'll do what she wants. My husband has custody of them. Which even her own parents are glad about because she isn't stable enough. They have been sick over there before she texts us to ask what to do. It's tough for me because I love and care for them like my own and you can't ever communicate with her because she could ask you a question and you answer it and she's going to read the answer so it suits her and then get mad when what she tries to plan doesn't work because it's not her time.

My sons father impossible about everything. He was told by the courts he needed to have a fence up around his pool before my son went up there. I asked him if proof of having this fence and he ignored me about it every single time I brought it up. Like I just want to know my son is safe while he's there and I had to go file a violation on him because he's just being a dick! I try so hard to put our own personal shit aside because I want what's best for my son but he's always doing something where I just can't stand him and wish he wasn't my sons father! 😶 he's so immature and he's making this about him and I when all I care about is my son and his safety and wellbeing while he's at his fathers.@iwillgo247,

@missjess your right whats the most important is how your son is and that he's safe. My step kids mom does the same thing has to make it about her and feeds the kids lies all the time to try and make her self look like a saint. I'm like seriously can't we just be grown up and civil for thevkids because that's what's important.

Exactly!!! I try to tell my ex that and he's all agreeing with me that our son deserves the best and not what's been going on with him and I but then he always acts the same way. I'm thinking of maybe being court ordered into family therapy. I honestly can't deal with this guy like this forever so if him and I need to hash shit out to a psychologist then I'm game if it will make things better for me and ultimately my son. If not then I'll just see a psychologist my self to help me deal with him lol. For real though it's that bad. He's emotionally and mentally abusive and dealing with this fence issue last week really took its toll on me 😔 it's not fair when I'm just being a good mom looking out for my child. And I feel like once he gets this petition he's just going to make things worst on me @iwillgo247,

As much as I don't want to admit I believe he will because it sounds like it's just the type of person he is. I hope for your sake that's not how it turns out. Sending you the best of luck.

Yeah he's a narcissist and a very spiteful awful person so I can see him being worse. But thank you! 💕@iwillgo247,