Should I Cut Off My Family for Being Selfish?
Ok no I'm not done venting, last one I promise.
So last week my husband was in a car wreck, car got messed up so bad its unfixable. We were supposed to go see my side of the family July 1st. But that got canceled due to the accident. I informed my family on what was going on and they got mad cause we weren't coming. Noone asked how my husband was, no details on the car or his condition, if me or my children were in the car..no sense of concern...literally all they said was, you just don't want to come even after I relequished pictures of the car to them. & haven't spoken to them since..I hate how selfish they are, yet his family were so concerned, checked on us and everything. I put my family out of my life when I was 17 up until I was about 20. I'm really thinking about putting them back out and keeping them out for good. My kids don't deserve selfish people in their lives. I wish my family were more supportive and caring but they never was so its really my fault for letting them back in after my husband and other friends told me it wasn't a good idea to give them another chance.
Ok now I'm done.
Cynde·
Мама дочки-младенца
Oh girl im right there with you. My parents are the most selfish people i ever experienced. I was actually in the hospital at 28weeks with a serious infection that almost required sugery and could have made me lose my baby and my dad decided to leave and drive all the way back home to get beer to sneak into the hospital in water bottles for him and my mom..
Cynde·
Мама дочки-младенца
I bring my daughter over there maybe twice a month, only if my sister and brother are there. But otherwise dont call or anything
Isis Reed·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
Wow that's crazy as heck..
My family haven't been to any of my kids births. Even my first pregnancy when I lost that baby, they were nowhere in sight.
If I'm not doing anything for them or fulfilling their requests regardless of my situation they don't have anything to do with me.
Cara·
Ugh. Girl I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.
Everyone deserves support from their families....
My family aren't supportive unless it's what they want... like
I'm pregnant. Will be 2nd baby if everything goes fine and they can't know until I'm out of 1st trimester b/c of who the dad is, they will pressure me to get an abortion and will talk down to me and make me feel bad if I don't do what they want. :( it's so hard
Isis Reed·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
@clbradley1229 omg I'm so sorry! I know exactly how you feel!
That's who you decided to have a baby by & if they can't accept that then that's on them.
My family aren't happy about being pregnant with my 3rd so soon & cause they felt I didn't need any more kids cause my daughter was 5mos when I found out..but they didn't lay in bed with my husband, they dont buy or get my kids anything but think they have a say so over how i have my kids so their opinion is irrelevant to me,
I'm going to make sure I don't treat my kids like that, they deserve a supportive family and I will support them no matter what they chose to do.
Isis Reed·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
That's why I'm thinking about kicking them out my life, they bring nothing but negativity @clbradley1229 & yeah it hurts a lot feeling you're alone.
Cara·
@icestorm1123, I hope I won't have to kick my family out of my life, but I neeed support and I know they are going to be nothing but against me :( it feels like in the end I will have to cut them off...
I wish it didn't have to be this way.
But your family really shouldn't be mad at you. You're married and you have your kids by the same guy and you don't live at home..
Me and my daughter live with my family right now because I'm a single mom... me and her dad aren't together, and me and the guy who got me pregnant last time (my ex.. we were together 3 years) well we aren't together right now either
Isis Reed·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
@clbradley1229 my family always find a reason to have drama and be mad at someone (sorry for the late response).
And I was always the black sheep because I was adopted so it's easier for them to pick on me, they love finding anything that could possibly be wrong and turn it into drama.
& your family should support you regardless of your decisions and whomever you have your babies by, kids are a blessing to have
But you gotta do what's best for you and your babies no matter what.