So I have my son I let him roam and play with whatever he wants and makes a mess, and then when he…

So I have my son I let him roam and play with whatever he wants and makes a mess, and then when he is down for the night I go clean the floors and pick everything up. My boyfriend always gets upset and throws a tantrum and talks shit saying I let Aydan do whatever he wants, that he has Aydan all day and that he doesn't let Aydan make a mess. I told him well I don't see what the problem is since I clean and pick everything up once he's down so it's not a big deal. IM the one who cleans the house 3x times week even when I worked all damn day, and yet on his off day he doesn't prep food for Aydan nor cleans the house, or even attempt to make food for me while I'm at work? So how am I wrong for allowing our son to play and make a mess and yet I'm the one cleaning it at the end of the day? Seriously dude?! Literally the minute I clocked out of work and walked into the living room and he goes to take a two hour nap because his "dad duties" are over and he wants "me time" tf? How is any of this fair to me? And yet I'm starving because he didn't even bother to include me in on breakfast or lunch. Get the fuck out of here!