So I'm nice I tell my boyfriend to kinda do something at least three times and when I get angry and…

So I'm nice I tell my boyfriend to kinda do something at least three times and when I get angry and upset he acts like I beat him and always says why do you treat me like that. Why are you like this. You need to Grow up acting like a kid. Like tf! I cook and clean all the time and all I want from you is to pick up after yourself just a little it's not hard to put a lid back on a sharpie so it doesn't dry out. It's not hard to put your fork for your lunch back in the container so you don't loose it in the car. It's not hard to fix a shelf or throw the trash ot clean the litter like you told me you would do. He says I have no patience I ask three times! Sometimes it takes three days! And then when I finally get fed up he pulls that "why do you always threat me like this" I'm tired of it! I can't take it. I'm litterally getting so stressed and depressed thinking am actually the bad guy and I'm the one who needs change and I'm the abusive one. I'm not sure what to do anymore. This happens literally everyday. And then he blames it on my pregnancy. Ungh what do I do? Everytime I try to talk it out I just start crying and just hitting things never him and I'm tired of acting like that. But it's not just me and he thinks it is.