Is the "cry it out" method healthy? What about a baby who has separation anxiety? My in laws put it…

No cry it out isn't healthy. Are you co sleeping?

@beebaby, Yes she sleeps next to our bed

I don't like it. I never us the cry it out method and my kids are very independent. But as long as your kids are happy and healthy you're still doing good.

I did it with my boys because I got tired of going upstairs for no reason. Even my Kids doctor said if they're fed and changed you shouldn't have to go up there. My daughter just cries now because she wants held or her pacifier not something I'm constantly going to go upstairs for

I tried the self soothig method. Doctor suggested it (perfectly healthy) but it didn't work for my daughter. Some kids do good with it and others don't. So she co slept with us for a year and now she sleeps in her crib no problem. I always felt like a crappy parent when I would try to self sooth her. But it doesn't cause separation anxiety. Every kid has it. Your doctor will probably tell you the same thing. Mine still screams if I get a cup of water without her and she is 15mnths lol

My brother and his wife did this with their children and I hated it! A baby cannot communicate with words so they cry. Something's wrong or they need something and to just let them cry it out... not me. Their only little for a short while and I know this because my son turned 13 yesterday and my daughter will be 16 in August. I can't hold them anymore or cuddle like we used to. So if my baby cries I'm there for her. My kids will never be able to say I wasn't there for them. And I'm not saying parents that use the CIO method aren't there for their children, I just personally feel like if I used the method my child would think I didn't care or something. But that's me. Can't have that on my conscience. I can pretty much tell when my kids were toddlers if they were crying to be unruly or crying if they were afraid or needed something but as a baby we just don't know. 😕

@morganmommy79, yes I feel the exact same way! My husband tries to let her cry but I cant bear to hear it! I always cave!