Okay my mommies of color. I need your feedback. How have you experienced racism/not having white…

I don't think we should ignore the horrible things of the past, but I don't think it's such a bad thing to not see color now. I don't see color, I see people. I treat everyone the same regardless of how they look.

I've actually had people call me racist because I didn't treat them as if they were better than me and that confused the hell out of me! Lol

There are a lot of issues with racists claiming to be colorblind or companies and the courts claiming they are and I don't think that's okay, but if someone truly isn't racist and they are treating everyone equally then I don't see a problem with them doing that. It's the pretenders who are giving it a bad name.

@babyboy1117, that makes sense! So the way I've been thinking is that, of course I will teach my children that you can't judge a person by their appearance period. But I also want them to understand that their brown friends may have some experiences in life where they are impacted negatively because they are brown. I want my son and the baby I'm carrying now to stand up for people who are being treated wrongly and to understand that certain things in this world will be easier for them because they are white. I want them to understand that it isn't something to feel guilty about, but it does come with a responsibility to try to fight for those who are not benefitting from that history. If that makes any sense?

@katielong2316

Yeah that makes a lot of sense! That's kind of how my mom raised me, she always made sure my sister and I understood we weren't better than anyone and I did grow up to stand up to a few bullies for other people in my high school years. Luckily I haven't had any reason to since then. I think making sure they understand that their colored friends will probably face different challenges and confrontations in life is a really good idea. I'm white, but my fiance is Mexican and I'm not sure if our son will be colored enough to face racism like his father has, but I definitely still want him to know that those things happen. I might be stealing your plan lol thanks for sharing it! 💚

@babyboy1117, yes! Acknowledging that people are going to experience things that my children will not is SO important to me. I was raised to "not see color" and not judge people by their skin color, BUT I was completely oblivious to the more subtle ways that racism still affects our minority populations.

@katielong2316

I was totally oblivious too! I sometimes still don't notice some things right away and then a few seconds later I'm like, woah wait a minute... There have been times where my fiance and I are on the bus and we've had older white men and older Mexican men giving us looks or glaring at us. We went to a Starbucks once and the old white lady taking our order didn't even acknowledge my fiance even though he was the one telling her our order, she would only look and speak to me and asked for my name on the order instead of his. It really irritates me that I sometimes completely miss things , but my fiance feels it everytime something like that happens and it makes me so sad 😞

@babyboy1117, wow. That makes me so angry. It is very easy to stay in our bubbles and never see what other people's lives are like. At least you are learning and you have your fiancé to open your eyes! We have to work to make more people aware, though I have no idea how!

@mommyhawkins2016, I agree! It's always wrong to judge someone based on their skin color or their culture. But I want my kids to know that white privilege is real, and that they have a responsibility to help fix the system that perpetuates these issues

@katielong2316

I'm not sure how either, I guess beginning with our little ones is a good start! I'm slowly trying to figure out how to get my aunt back to how she used to be. She used to not be racist, but when she married her 55 year old husband(she's 23) she has slowly gotten more and more racist, specifically towards Mexicans. If she doesn't change before my son is born she won't be allowed near him.

@babyboy1117, ugh my mother dated a guy for a few years who was a typical older Southern white guy who was racist as hell. Since then she's become this bigoted, ignorant person I don't even recognize. She's also a pretty miserable person in general, and her favorite thing to do is tell me I'm wrong so anytime I try to enlighten her she pushes back at me. It makes me so sad to see such an intelligent woman who was raised on freaking Staten Island in NYC become such a sad backwards person!