Now he know if I'm very quiet I'm either mad at him or I'm going thru something that I'm trying to with it myself. He will ask what's wrong. Or know to back off me till I tell him. It takes allot to get me to be real mad at him to the point I'm very quiet n not my perky self.

I believe in this....Sometimes you have to make him know what he will be missing if you leave.My hubby had to learn what will happen if I left him. I think twice in our marriage. First time I left without telling him where I was. He knew where I was when I posted on FB I was just over my sister house having a "Me time" with strawberry shortcakes n bragged how I deserved it. Didn't go into detail about anything. I stayed there 3 days then I got apology. Then the second time I just stopped talking to him I didn't wash his clothes, didn't cook for him, I acted like he didn't exist, I only talked to the kids the only time I said anything to him was when our child needed diapers or wipes or we needed something for the house like soap or tissue. I took my wedding ring off n kept it off till he apologized n told him my intentions that what I'm not going to put up with. Told him to treat me the way he want me to treat him. After that we had no real issues. Some men need to know how it's like without you n need to know what they have.