I need advice Dont judge me please because there are circumstances that i wont disclose on this post…
I need advice
Dont judge me please because there are circumstances that i wont disclose on this post regarding our time together BUT my daughters dad is having another girl with his wife (yes they were married while we were together, but as i said before... circumstances)
I had my baby in January and their daughter is due in October so we were pregnant at the same time. He has two kids from his first marraige and now two from this one and my daughter. She doesnt know about my daughter and i, he promised he would tell her but a week ago he got a new job (we worked together) and swore he wouldn't dissappear on me but i haven't heard from him since. Part of me wants to tell her but another part of me feels like its not my place to tell her, and what good would it do? Its not going to make him be there for my daughter. I feel like im just being spiteful and thats not how i want to feel about this situation. what would you do?
Stephanie ·
Мама дочки-младенца
@littlelamb17 I would feel the same way you do and want to tell her. But at the same time, its his wife and HE SHOULD TELL HER. It isn't your place. If you did tell her, it can cause more problems then its worth. I wouldn't want to be in your shoes!!! man thats a tough situation!
Cynde·
Мама дочки-младенца
@spayanes85 yes i feel like he should too, but hes obviously not going to lol but i dont want it to cause more issues, like if hehas already decided to abandon my daughter telling her isnt going to change his mind, but at the same time im a mother and why is he choosing to do this to my daughter and then go and make more kids..
Cynde·
Мама дочки-младенца
@spayanes85 like i feel like he needs to be providing for my daughter the way he does with his other kids, because its not fair to her. But that cant happen unless he tells hwr
Stephanie ·
Мама дочки-младенца
@littlelamb17 yes, he should provide for his children but men are assholes like that. You can't make them DO ANYTHING. But your daughter has YOU! As much as it would hurt to do it alone, you are ENOUGH!!!! Maybe its better that she doesn't know him.
He seems like a puss! Sorry but if he was man enough to do what he's done to both of you, he can at least be honest!!
Cynde·
Мама дочки-младенца
@spayanes85 not only me, but what he did to his wife and other kids too. Hes the most selfish person i have ever met in my entire life and hes done nothing but lie to me haha.
I have also considered child support but i dont know if i want to go that route either considering we worked together and i dont know what will happen with my job. Im just stuck in what to do
Stephanie ·
Мама дочки-младенца
Yea, he's just F***** up all around. I would just be done...no one needs someone like that...he's toxic. What makes you think he don't have someone else on the side besides you two?!?! Hell nah!!!!!!
Cynde·
Мама дочки-младенца
@spayanes85 im almost 100% sure he does, i haven't seen him outside of work since shortly after i found out i was pregnant so he and i and done and over. I just wish hed be there for my baby
Stephanie ·
Мама дочки-младенца
@littlelamb17 yea, i understand. Hope it works out though.
Leah·
Мама сына-младенца
@littlelamb17, sounds like a messed up scenario ur not the bad one here he is. He is married that's just wrong on his part. Honestly I wouldn't tell her or him I would file for support and be done. The courts will handle it. Either way he is her dad and he has a responsibility what makes the others so special and not ur baby? Weather or not he pays or sees her well who cares she has her mama but if he don't eventually it will catch up to him and it just might be when ur baby needs private school or swim lessons or newschool clothes or a college education either way eventually u will get something bc it sounds like she won't get her dad. I would love to see his wife's eyes when she opens that letter😱😱😂😂
Queen Bitch·
I would file for support. It shouldn't hurt your job.