@dreamermom to each their own and if your kids are happy healthy and can support themselves I say you did amazing. I think he is trying to blame a generation that is just beginning to grow up for problems we didn't cause.

@marthaelisa17 I definitely think it's important not to lose touch of your relationship with your spouse. I think this gentleman took it too far that's all

@twinsandcounting my aunt just posted it so this is the first time I'm seeing it. I wanted to vent here without starting family drama 😂😂 I agree with everything you said.

I don't think they should be second class citizens by any means... but I certainly see where he is coming from... I have 4 older kids from my first marriage (technically step, but their mom walked out just after I married their dad), we made sure that we focused on them... but made sure it was not to the detriment of our relationship... they knew they were important... but nothing they did took priority over the 'family' as a whole... occasionally we had conflicts in scheduling, we talked about it, and they would have to be flexible... ultimately we had the final say. If they wanted to do something, the rule was we needed a 2 week notice to work it into the budget/schedule, otherwise the answer was almost always no... my oldest daughter always pouted about how unfair we were... because her friends could do whatever they wanted! But now she's a well adjusted high functioning adult, she moved out the summer after high school, has always supported herself, now she's married, they recently bought their own home and has a child of her own... she sees how hard it is to keep the balance of her marriage and child... my youngest just graduated from college, and has already taken a summer job, so she can get her bearings to decide on where she wants to live... so I'd say we did alright! ☺️ I now have an almost 2 year old and a baby on the way, and my husband is very close to my older kids... so we plan to raise these 2 just like I did the older kids! ☺️ I want them to know that they are very important... but I want them to have a humble spirit, respect others and work hard for what they have.

I don't see it as a rating, I see it as a foundation for a healthy family. In our home we edify our marriage in hopes that it will be an anchor for our children. The title of the article kind of takes it somewhere else, but I see what he is saying. It's how we run our home and I was raised this way and it worked well for us. I never felt unimportant by my folks. Or second. If the marriage is strong the family will benefit if its weak or in turmoil it affects the kids. We have a date night once a week to have some time for us to catch up. It's important that we make time for each other. That's my take on it.

Someone posted about this a while back and I still don't agree with it.

Frankly, this is an older gentleman that comes from the times of when ALL adults and elders deserved respect. Dad was the boss. Mom ran the house. And the kids "knew their place." I personally think that's what this man is trying to reinforce in this article. "Going back to the old days". However, not all adults deserve respect and parents should not be placed "above" their children. I treat my children equally to myself and my husband. I treat them as they should be treated as individuals because that's what they need. But they all get the same amount of respect from me. It doesn't make a bit of difference that "we came first". We also decided to bring them into this world without their knowledge or consent. So what? We deserve more respect because of that?? Yes, I gave my children life and I will teach them all I can. But in the same respect, they complete my life and my husband's life and we will learn a great many things from them as well.

So in my humblest opinion, the article is bullshit.