Let the courts handle it but that's a wait to unless you on the county I heard.

@ltsdiaries, I wish I wouldn't have put my bd on the birth certificate. But it doesn't give him ANY parental rights. It just makes it easier for you to file for child support
But take my advice for face value or however you choose. If you can make it without him and not have him in your life/their life at all then you're BETTER off. It's both worth the struggle and heartache and everything in between. You'll get to where you want to be and you'll find a balance. And every persons tolerance for their bd is different. Just like every moms journey is different. But you'll get there mama. It's his financial responsibility to pay for those babies though. He needs to man the hell up! Which we all already know lol

@kailey.gallentine thank you! I knew I wasn't wrong, I already requested a child support application its coming. it's going to be difficult because he's not on the birth certificate so DNA test and cooperation on crucial but I will get it it done.

And they don't need a relationship with their father. Genetics mean absolutely nothing. A strong male figure who loves and nurtures them and loves them unconditionally means everything. Just because he is the bio dad means absolutely nothing

It's considered parent alienation and it's technically not ok. Child support and visitation/custody are two different things in the eyes of the law. But because you weren't married you have no legal obligation to let him see them whatsoever reguardless of if he's paying or not.
On a personal note though, I wouldn't want him around them. I tell my bd if he isn't going to be there emotionally, spiritually, and financially then he's not allowed to be there physically. And BTW $100 each is TOO LOW!!!!!! If you went through the court it would be alteast $400/child

@mrsjones24 thank you. .girl I was just saying that I love how their melanin is coming in. I love it

Let the courts handle it. Think about your kids first. 👍🏼

@kambam @samann9492 @blue_jay1418 @elainaelise yeah he only wants to see them if he can see me too. Which is bittersweet I don't trust him alone with them but on the other hand I don't want to have to be around all the time lol

I understand.. well you're their mama and ultimately you have their best interest in mind. So whatever you choose, is best.

Oh yeah that would make me nervous j would wait to see what he does and if he doesn't contact you to see them then let it be

@elainaelise I usually would think that but speaking from personal experience with my dad i wished my dad would have just stayed away than to only come around every blue moon .

@blue_jay1418 he can't and he won't ever watch them alone ...he can't because he's very impatient and gets frustrated when babies cry and there's two of them.i don't trust him.. and he won't because he says he's not going to watch them while I go and fuck some other guy..his words not mines .. even when the judge gives him visitation I would never send them empty handed no telling what he would buy

I think you shouldn't keep them from him. It's not punishing him, it's punishing the babies. They'll grow up and see him for what he his. Let the court deal with it.

In my opinion I wouldn't keep them from him they have to develop a relationship with their father however if he doesn't pay I would tell him I'm not sending anything with them so then he would have to buy what they need while he has them

No you would not be wrong! And do you have a wic office near you? They should be able to help you with formula!