Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Short Luteal Phase? I've just started temping because I believe that the reason I haven't had a BFP yet, after 20 months, is because I believe I may have a Luteal Phase Defect.
What would you do? I feel so stupidly selfish if I choose to be induced because I want my boy to come when he is ready, but I am also feeling selfish stressing him out because everything going on and how stressed I am. So do I continue to stress him out or do I get induced and deal with this and let him be? Or will he be okay? I've been up all night contracting on and off but could it be from my nerves?
Would you consider this cheating? What would you do I need advice from a neutral stand point. Genuine advice of what you would do. Ds had his tonsils out last night. For some reason my gut about dh was not good. At night I logged into his Snapchat and saw he was talking to an old friend who he had a thing with. Last thing I was able to see was him saying it was hard to not log into those pictures and she then said she couldn't answer the phone because she was with her husband. I texted dh and asked what pictures was it so hard for him to not look at and I guess he called her and they talked. And she supposedly came clean to me and said they would just talk and vent about what stresses them. Dh said the same thing and I guess the pictures were of them from a long time ago of them and other friends hanging out. Dh started crying saying he never meant anything that everything looked like the perfect crime but that there was nothing there. I have since kept my distance and told him to give me space. At the moment I don't want to see him. I believe what they said but I'm so hurt and I don't want to be the stupid person to believe everything.
Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄 Not sure if I'm being just mean or what. But my SO used $160 from me this morning. I gave him my bank card because he needed $60 to get material for work. His boss was going to give it back to him at the end of the day. So instead of $60 he took out $160. Which I was a little pissed. (One of the reasons I just can't let him use my card. I have to go get the money from the atm myself if I'm giving it to him) then, tonight he asked for $20 incase his boss didn't give it to him. So I gave him my card not even thinking because I had kids running around me. I asked if he could pick up a few things that were out of and told him he could use my card if he has too. And I even told him not to get the expensive brands or anything m generic is fine. So he does. But when he does he decides to go Easter shopping for the kids. (Not sure if he used to my card or not) but if he did, I'd be even more pissed. He knows I have bills to pay on top of giving my son's school money that I owe them. He goes to a private school and I haven't paid in 5 months. It's towards the end of school now so I need to pay it. He knows this month I am extremely tight because of the school, im already in debt and my credit score sucks. I have been trying not to get in more debt and actually fix my credit. I'm so frustrated. It's like we have different priorities and different ideas on this. I feel like I'm completely drowning!!
kammy·
Мама сына-младенца
I wouldn't keep him from them. Just let court handle it if/when he doesnt handle it.
Samantha·
No you would not be wrong! And do you have a wic office near you? They should be able to help you with formula!
Patience Ledesma·
In my opinion I wouldn't keep them from him they have to develop a relationship with their father however if he doesn't pay I would tell him I'm not sending anything with them so then he would have to buy what they need while he has them
👑Elaina💋·
Мама дочки-младенца
I think you shouldn't keep them from him. It's not punishing him, it's punishing the babies. They'll grow up and see him for what he his. Let the court deal with it.
Lashay Franklin·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@blue_jay1418 he can't and he won't ever watch them alone ...he can't because he's very impatient and gets frustrated when babies cry and there's two of them.i don't trust him.. and he won't because he says he's not going to watch them while I go and fuck some other guy..his words not mines .. even when the judge gives him visitation I would never send them empty handed no telling what he would buy
Lashay Franklin·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@elainaelise I usually would think that but speaking from personal experience with my dad i wished my dad would have just stayed away than to only come around every blue moon .
Patience Ledesma·
Oh yeah that would make me nervous j would wait to see what he does and if he doesn't contact you to see them then let it be
👑Elaina💋·
Мама дочки-младенца
I understand.. well you're their mama and ultimately you have their best interest in mind. So whatever you choose, is best.
Lashay Franklin·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@kambam @samann9492 @blue_jay1418 @elainaelise yeah he only wants to see them if he can see me too. Which is bittersweet I don't trust him alone with them but on the other hand I don't want to have to be around all the time lol
Kimberly ·
Let the courts handle it. Think about your kids first. 👍🏼
Lashay Franklin·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@mrsjones24 thank you. .girl I was just saying that I love how their melanin is coming in. I love it
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It's considered parent alienation and it's technically not ok. Child support and visitation/custody are two different things in the eyes of the law. But because you weren't married you have no legal obligation to let him see them whatsoever reguardless of if he's paying or not.
On a personal note though, I wouldn't want him around them. I tell my bd if he isn't going to be there emotionally, spiritually, and financially then he's not allowed to be there physically. And BTW $100 each is TOO LOW!!!!!! If you went through the court it would be alteast $400/child
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And they don't need a relationship with their father. Genetics mean absolutely nothing. A strong male figure who loves and nurtures them and loves them unconditionally means everything. Just because he is the bio dad means absolutely nothing
Lashay Franklin·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@kailey.gallentine thank you! I knew I wasn't wrong, I already requested a child support application its coming. it's going to be difficult because he's not on the birth certificate so DNA test and cooperation on crucial but I will get it it done.
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@ltsdiaries, I wish I wouldn't have put my bd on the birth certificate. But it doesn't give him ANY parental rights. It just makes it easier for you to file for child support
But take my advice for face value or however you choose. If you can make it without him and not have him in your life/their life at all then you're BETTER off. It's both worth the struggle and heartache and everything in between. You'll get to where you want to be and you'll find a balance. And every persons tolerance for their bd is different. Just like every moms journey is different. But you'll get there mama. It's his financial responsibility to pay for those babies though. He needs to man the hell up! Which we all already know lol
jazzy·
Let the courts handle it but that's a wait to unless you on the county I heard.