@the.seminole.812 I get you, a lot of these guys put the club at number one, and that is taken advantage of, if the club asks them to jump they will. I do think it's possible for boundaries to be set if your dh were to really try and express that to them. If a member has a family that should come first, no matter what.

@amanamal my dh went from running the support club to being in the 1%club. It is completely different... it is so much more time. The issue is not the club. It is how committed he is to the club.

His response to my complaint was...

"I am sorry cause I know how hard it is because, you didnt make the commitment to the club. I made the commitment to them but, you made the commitment to me."

My thoughts were... dude seriously that commitment goes both ways... I am not committing myself to you if you cant do the same for me.

I am sure they realize exactly what theyre doing good or bad... For the most part I like the brothers. They are ALWAYS there for us when we have any issue. Their old ladies are crazy AF for the most part but, their men drive them to it. I just never hang out with them because really it is very clique-y and theres a lit of gossip so I keep to myself but, theres no doubts in my mind that if ever my family needed something they would show up regardless of if i keep to myself or not...

Its all the time that they require him to be away... all the commitment and feeling like I am raising kids alone.

My dh needs tge club in his life. He needs the sense of purpose and brotherhood.

Its just not my thing. Id rather we split our free time between being out on the town dressed up being romantic and going to different chapter parties and benefits.

Not to mention all the extra shit and middle if the night emergency calls.

Its too much. We have been fighting all the time

My husband is in an MC, they're one of the top support clubs of a big 1% club in our area. I'm lucky, he made it very clear to them that his family and job come before the club. I've seen it destroy the family of one of the other members though.

@the.seminole.812 i refuse to be friends with the other ladies with SO in the club, I don't even talk to them in public. I want no part in that crap anymore. Its more dangerous than they realize it is.

@the.seminole.812 its a terrible experience and I've tried to get everybody I know out and away from it because I've seen people get really really hurt. I tell my boyfriend all the time that if something happens because of the club, I will personally hurt somebody. I don't get why men can't just ride without thinking they have to be in a club.

@leann.harris thats tough my DH is a 1%er and it's just a huge strain on our relationship and I just hate it. It's not what I want in our lives or our kids exposed to but, Idk why I stay. Its horrible.

My boyfriend. His dad, my dad, my uncle. Worst part is they are all 1% but in different clubs.

Well he was but got in a really bad motorcycle accident last year

My father in law is in one and boy did my mother in law feel so unwanted :(