My boyfriend needs to get his priorities straight or he's gone, he's always either going out to…

That's so hard! Praying he gets his act together!🙏🏻

@shariedebord he better cause I'm extremely close to disappearing and he can be relieved that he doesn't have to spend his money on a baby. I can do without him

How long have you two been together? Are you guys young? Because maturity (on his part) probably plays a big factor

@shariedebord 4 and a half years, we're both 23 and we do have maturing to do but he has a habit of just settling for things, he has a job but could get way better cause family, friends and myself are trying to push him to do more and offering to help but he doesn't want it. It's ridiculous. He tries to make me feel guilty and it's not fair. I never go out and have fun, all he ever does is take me out to dinner once in a while and fall asleep early when we get back but he'll go out with his friends then go to ihop at 4 in the morning knowing I've been wanting to go there so bad.

That's so awful! You deserve better. He really needs to step up. It won't get easier when the baby gets here. Do you guys live together?

@shariedebord if we break up I'm just gonna focus on myself and my baby, I can be mom and dad. Yea we do, to make things worse I have to go to a shelter after Christmas since money wasn't being saved so I have to do things differently than I planned 😕

@harleigh1223, a shelter?! To live there?!

@shariedebord hopefully not, since I'll have my baby with me they might be able to give me temporary placement in an apartment or wherever is available, if not, I have no idea what I'm gonna do but I'll figure things out, just gotta stay positive

@harleigh1223, do to work? Do you guys share a bank account? Are you able to pay your bills right now?

@shariedebord yea I work, no I'd never share an account with anyone, lol. I can pay bills but then food and other things are needed especially cause I have to eat gluten free

Oh man girl. I have to too! I was diagnosed with celiac disease so I know it's expensive! I was going to suggest that if you do share an account to "save" his money but put it in a separate bank account that he doesn't have access to. If he pays the bills and you have a roof over your head then I'd stay out until you can get yourself to a point to be able to live on your own sufficiently

@shariedebord I have Celiac too, I hate that I have it. We both pay bills. I'm going to do as much as possible to avoid it but since I'm due soon money is going to be tighter and finding an affordable apartment isn't easy over here.

@harleigh1223, yeah I can imagine up there it isn't. Is he planning on leaving you? Can you live with family?

@shariedebord he says he doesn't want to leave me and the baby, but sometimes I feel like things would be better if we weren't together, I love him but things need to change. I live with my grandmother but she's getting too old so I don't want to burden her anymore which is why I'm going to leave in December or January

@harleigh1223, you can't leave if she's not kicking you out and you have a roof over your head. They say babies being around grandparents does incredible things for the grandparents. You can't leave without having somewhere to go!

@shariedebord she recommended I leave by next year so I have no choice really. Yea, I've heard that before, especially cause she's in early stages of dementia it would be great for her but she doesn't really want anyone living with her anymore so as much as I wanna be here to help it's her decision.

That's my world lol