I need help with my relationship....me and my baby daddy been together for 3 years already and i…

My husband took a good while to grow up after we had my baby. Some guys take time but I also had a lot of help financially from family. You have to figure out if you can survive if you're gonna stay w him. And talk to him. No phones no games so he has to look at you

@luceromommy I try to get him to get of his games and stop smoking weed but he doesnt listen to me....he always keep telling me he does listen just so i can stop talking about what he doesnt want to hear....and my daughter already a year and 5 months....my brother told me once i give birth to my daughter that men change and i waited for him but he didnt change....i gave him many chances especially the times he cheated on me...am i giving him to many chances

It's cuz you're letting it happen. No one wants to hear that they are fucking up. But if you stop telling him he won't feel bad and won't think it's a problem and then you have no choice but to leave. My husband sucked at keeping jobs and finally I was tired of it. I told him you need a job or you need to leave and he didn't believe me so I kicked him out and he came back w a job and has kept one for years now. She was almost two by the time that happened but I took a chance there was a chance he wasn't gonna get a job and I would have done it on my own. Get what I'm saying?

@luceromommy i done that so many times....i left him about 4 or 5 times for the same reason and he got a job and all but then left the job too....what i meant by his first job meaning his first job to keep it longer then the other jobs....

Oh wow. Do you want to stay w him?

@luceromommy im still with him because my brother is close to him and because of my daughter....i dont want my daughter to have to go back and forth with me and her father and having step mom and step dad.......me and her father can laugh and talk but i cant get him to realize that we cant do what we want anymore....our childhood is over....also i dont want to leave my baby daddy because his family already hates me and they just gonna talk more shit about me when i brake up with him

Personally, I would leave him. He is too immature for my liking. Especially if you are saying he cheated on you. He is being selfish and only cares about himself. That is not how a family works

I get that but it's not about them or how they feel. You need to do what's best for your little one. I stayed w Daniel for so long cuz I didn't want a mom and dad living different places either. He was just so selfish. Some grow out of it and grow up. Get jobs and keep them. Don't make it easy for him by not saying anything but don't expect him to change quick either. It's takes long for some guys. But like I said you have to be stable. Don't get kicked out on the street cuz he can't hold a job.

@sawyersmom yeah the cheating stopped because i was getting back at him for it and he didnt like it...but thats what causes our trust to be hard between us

Well to be honest if you don't trust him, you're wasting your time anyway. He is really young and he acts his age

@luceromommy we have a place to stay at but we are suppose to pay $100 since December and nither one of us been working...i dont work because im taking care of my daughter and my grandpa and having to clean and cook for everyone in the house...its hard to find a babysitter to take care of my daughter because its hard to trust family and friends now and days...i get foodstamps to bring in food my grandpa pays bills and my uncle pays $100 a month my brother and baby daddy dont do anything but play games and quite jobs.....i dont want my daughter to go through what i went through over the years.....

@sawyersmom yeah hard not to tell

Oh that's kinda like I used to be. At my moms. She paid it all and I took care of baby and he just chilled and played games. I think it took for my daughter to need cochlear implants for him to finally grow up. I'll be praying that he changes soon, you're a good momma. Don't stress too bad right now just keep having him Apply for jobs. I gotta get to bed I have to be up in two hours for work. But message me! Anytime you want to talk. Or add me on snap chat if you have it. I'm always up for talking :) s.lucero1 at Snapchat :) or message me on here

@luceromommy thanks appreciate your help

It's seems to me even if u gave him to many chances he won't change he has to change himself and if he dosent want that u should move on with ur daughter as well . U also said he cheated on you that's not good either not a good relationship at all he dosent respect u especially having his kids he dosent care even though ur brother his closer to him who cares it's about you and ur kids what do u want and for ur kids u can't always think about ur boyfriend u got to think about ur daughter what's best for her .. it will be hard being a single mom but ur not alone .. I was single mother when I left and moved on with my ex husband and I was with him for 8 hrs with him @lillu97

@mscandykisess714 yeah im already deciding to leave him....i took care of my daughter for months before im sure i can do it longer

My Ex husband cheated on me as well with another woman got her Pregnant as well I couldn't imagine that he would do that to me and his daughter at the time especially after that he Abandoned us so I felt soo alone soo lost but I had family and friends who were their for me someone I can talk to they told me u can never trust him again even though he cheated once I have him a second chance in the past but that bite me in the ass he went back with her again back and forth thats what he was doing I got tired of it so I was thinking what's best for my daughter it's to move on and divorce him and seperate with him and I'm doing good to be honest my daughter sees her dad over the weekends that's it .. I know ur scared but trust me u will feel better once u move on and u will realize that u won't need him were strong single Mothers we can do anything for our kids .. were stronger than that sometimes it takes time to notice that in ur self .. @lillu97

@mscandykisess714 Your a good mother for that ....and i think im going to start thinging about me and my daughter only

Yah that's the only best way to move Forward just like u said u been taking care of ur daughter by ur self he dosent give a flying fuck just about his games and himself he's an ass hole and that sad he did to u I don't deserve that at all be strong single mother and be positive and keep ur head up thats the only advice I can give u as a single mother and u will do good trust me in the long run .. @lillu97

U don't @lillu97

@mscandykisess714 yeah thanks i appreciate all the help

Ur welcome @lillu97