Am I being to selfish in not sending pictures to Alaveya's grandparents from her dads side. I was at first, but I…
Am I being to selfish in not sending pictures to Alaveya's grandparents from her dads side. I was at first, but I completely stop. They live 3 hours and 40 mins away or less. My baby already 6 months and she has not received a visit from her grandma. Yet he goes to big trips recently the philippines and Domican Republic. The grandma sends her gifts and calls once in a while. She's always been nice to me and I know she has a good heart, Now it's been 1 month I have not heard from her and it's prolly caz I was straight up on the phone in a Nice way sayin havin visits here and then mean more than gifts. And her Grandpa recently texted me to send her a picture! And idk how to wright a nice txt. And sayin I won't be sendin pictures. Caz seems THts all they bother tryin doin and receiving pictures when They can't even come visit her! Like her Grandma saw her when she was 1 month but only caz i went to go Serve papers to her dad! We ain't together! If they able to do visits then I will be able to do the same and drive up there! But if they don't bother tryin I jus feel is not right to keep sendin them pictures! Any advice mommies Am I wrong?
savannah·
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@erikaaaa, yeah that's frustrating . We'll do what u feels right you're at no obligation to send pics of I don't want to. U don't want ur child around negativity either, and if ur not happy or uncomfortable with someone your baby gets that vibe too!
Erika DelReal·
@brendamariex3, Heyy girl thank you!!😍 and her dad picked her name! And no he's not involve wat so ever!! He is out of the picture and it's not caz i didn't want too he jus choose not too be their but watever now! I gotta stay strong been strong! He basically don't try see how she is! He immature and still got lot to grow up! Sorry for the late reply I was busy busy at work I liked was mad o couldn't respond I couldn't right away. I jus got off work:) so now I replied
Erika DelReal·
@elysiansmama, I wanna apologize for late response girl I been at work and I jus got off. Yes it's so upsetting and the grandparents aren't together but o jus don't like the fact they take advantage so it seems like they can get pictures but not go visit. And like I jus get tired of it. I bet when they come visit her my baby goin to cry caz she don't know them. Got me mad how her grandma went to go visit this place near by where we live and its lot farther than where's she's at but couldn't come this way where we are closer! And she is a nice Lady grandma to my Baby always was nice when her son was with me but she has an excuse all the time!! It kills me! Like I jus ignore am jus goin to stop doin a lot of things so they can actually see it!! And make effort! But I jus can't count on them. My parents been such great help!
Alexis·
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@elysiansmama You're Right
savannah·
Мама дочки-младенца
Sorry for the long post but it took a lot of persistence and aggressive confrontation otherwise people like that just won't get the point! They most likely don't change either 🤷🏻♀️
savannah·
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I've had this issue before with my own parents. My mom will ghost for a month or so and then hmu like "y don't u ever send pics I wanna see her" even tho my parents live about 1hr away, she never makes an effort to see her but yet they'll drive to my side of town almost every weekend to go out drinking with her mil and hubby( my stepdad) ...I've tried so many times to at least meet halfway for lunch or something and she's like "ohhh well we already have plans .."
And I'm like those plans more important than seeing your only grandchild ? Mind you I would ask a week or two in advance to meet too...
My daughter is now 9m and my mom is still the same way... she is always upset and gets mad bc my daughter always cries when she sees her bc she like knows instinctively she's not a good person and that my mom is mean (lol😹)
But to answer your question when my mom has asked for pics when even tho I don't think she deserves to have them, I'll send her a short video or video chat her so she can't save the pics . And after that if she makes an effort to see her then I will send her one or two pics but that is it. I used to send her a lot when she would ask but I learned that all she wanted to have them for was to post on her fb to make it look like she was a good grandmother! 😾so I told her u cannot post any without my permission and she took them down.