right ladies! this is becoming a real problem in my relationship with my partner, but i have no sex…

So he wants to leave because you don't have sex?@dhovakiinx, x

@lauren1996, that's what he was basically saying last night. (he'd been drinking.😑)

@dhovakiinx, he's a twat if that's his reason! Maybe it was just the drink talk! But don't let him push you into having sex if you don't feel up to it, don't make him feel like you have to do it!@dhovakiinx, xx

Normal during pregnancy. I have no sex drive at all atm. My partners been moody too :/ I did it the other day and bled quite a bit so that's put me off again 🙄🙄 I doubt your partner means it, he's probably just grumpy and spitting his spoon out x

@lauraepollard, oh i'd never do it to keep him happy. we just argue all the time because i'm not being intimate enough. our sex life hasn't been all the great for about a year, but now i'm pregnant it's even worse. he makes me feel so low because i can't give him what he wants :(

@jskalouu, its not been fantastic for a good year or so, but now i'm pregnant it's even worse. i just wish he was more understanding. :(

@lauren1996, yeah, a big one! 😂 id never do it to keep him happy. it'd make me feel worse :( xx

@dhovakiinx, oh really? Maybe it's some long term tension in the relationship causing it. Do you get much time as just a couple instead of as parents? Might do you some good to go on a date and spend some time together. It's so much harder to keep a relationship strong and happy with kids 😩

@jskalouu, no, we don't get a lot of time to ourselves. it's harder because we've been living with my family for some time whilst we save up for a house (renting didn't get us anywhere so we thought we'd buy 😂).

that could be a reason as to why we've not been at our best. but i just feel like he isn't understanding at all. plus he drinks a lot :/

@dhovakiinx, oh there's not a lot you can do with someone that drinks 😩 causes a right foul temper. If you can't get out try a date in the house? ☺️ me and my OH couldn't go out for our 2nd anniversary cause we just had Eli, so he cooked us a curry; everyone else disappeared and we had a wee date in the kitchen haha! Just me and him. It's good to be alone sometimes. But if you can get someone to mind the kids, you should get out and be alone together for a day. It'll probably do you both the world of good. Bet you're desperate for a break too!

To give you an almost ultimatum is very selfish of your partner. I have had a very low sex drive since having kids and as much as I do try to make more of effort for him, at the same time he tries to understand the reasons why half the time sex is the last thing on my mind! Lol.

So your not having as much sex... Is he still being loving and caring to you which would help encouraging things? Is he helping set the scene to be romantic? This was a big NO with my husband for a while. When I made him see that I didn't feel like he cared (until he'd roll over & want something) he realised he had to make an effort as well. Which made me want to make more of an effort. It's definitely a 2 way street.

I found with my last pregnancy I didn't want sex much until I was over 20weeks then I was like a nympho 😂. Poor bloke couldn't cope 😂. I'm the same now with me being 14 weeks I just cba it's such a chew lol xx