What is it that I am doing wrong? Now my mum is blaming me for her not getting better 😑😑😓😓😓 This sucks! I didn't tell…

That sounds so tough. My mum's the same, like there's a limit to doing stuff and being active and not wanting to sit around, it shouldn't come at the cost of your own health! I agree with you, don't postpone your appointment. She needs to learn to look after herself and take her frustrations out on someone else!

@noshinxoxo Thank you hun 😓😓😥😥😥 Xx

Forgive me for asking but does your mum suffer from mental health? @winterbaby95 xx

@west94 No, I don't think so. She had depression years ago and was on tablets. But that was in her 20s. She seems to brush me off whenever I talk about the way I am feeling...she says I am being stupid or something. One min she says I need to see my GP....next she is blaming it on OH...and various other things. My GP appointment is the 10th of May...the day my auntie is travelling back home...I dont really want to stay with my auntie..it will just throw my whole routine off. I just like to be at home where I am comfortable...and have my comforts. I will just feel trapped. 😓 its a great offer from my auntie..she was going to take us to places etc. But I am just not mentally ready to be doing that. She says it will be a break.... I dont think it will. Xx

@west94 The other day my auntie told me to have a nap when Maya had a nap...which I did. Then she started saying she was disappointed with me....for what exactly?? Xx

@west94 She says I neglect Maya...but in my whole existance she has never met my emotional needs ever. Any waking hour she would spend on her laptop 'working'.... I would be ignored the whole time...if i wanted to speak to her...she would snap at me...or say 10 mins....10 mins would come and go...... Lunch...dinner.

.her attention will still be on the laptop. So in the end I gave up...just didnt bother...stayed in my room from the time i got home from school...... came down for dinner then went straight back to my room again. Xx

@west94 Whenever I felt sick or something...she would say eat...drink...then youll feel better. That was it. Just brush me off. Then she expects me to be all sympathetic and whatnot when she is ill...like a cold...etc. aggrivates me. Obviously now shes actually ill. But when i had a cold etc...i didnt lay on the sofa feeling sorry for myself. I still had Maya to care for...breast feed etc. 😭😢 Xx

@west94 Whenever she isnt around...Its like she is still controlling me....Because just anything I do...I just think..no she will want it done this way...that way...even when I talk to Maya now...I go over what ive said in my head to make sure Ive said the right thing... My OH gets annoyed with the way I behave....he refers me to being to robot...and doing things just because my mum will want it this way...or this and that done... 😢😢😢 He has to snap me out of it....When I was 36 weeks pregnant...he finally lost it with the way my mum wad treating me and he snapped at her... She was complaining because i was sleeping and not doing anything...first of all id just finished college like 2 weeks previous. I had no coursework to do...I was resting and preparing for Maya to come. I was getting annoyed and was getting cramps...so walked out if the room and thats when my OH snapped...xx

@west94 Last night i went in and said good night to her...and said i was going to bed. Then she said i couldnt because Maya hasnt eaten yet.... As if id take my child to bed without dinner? I just dont understand..... 😢😢 I will message you hun x

Ad be moving in my own place tbh I couldt cope with that like being a mum ur self Isn't hard enough xxx

@sarahrose569 Yeah...she gets pissy with me when i say I want to move out. Saying i'll be ruining Maya's life and she will fail just like me and her dad... 😠😬xx

Oh ad defo be gone and proving her wrong am sure maya would love to just be with her mummy not listing to her nan being mean ur strong love i would off snapped ages ago xxx

I don't want to sound awful but it sounds like your mum is emotionally abusing u and has been for a while xx she shouldn't be acting the way she is it isn't right x I agree with @sarahrose569 you'll be much happier in your own house with your own space xx

Am all for respecting ur orders and especially ur own mum but if my mum treated me like that she wouldt she me or my kids for dust and she woyld be told a few home truths no matter her situation , think off maya doll xxxx

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I agree with the above- it's without a doubt emotional abuse! ☹️ hopefully you can get your own place- if you tell the council (or whoever) that you're being treated like this it could hurry your application and get you higher on the list! It's not fair on you or your little one to see you being treated so unfairly! Hope you get sorted soon xx

So sorry hun i have just read this...i will inbox you.. I agree with others your being emotionally and mentally abused i can relate xxx