First post on this app. But I need some advice. Me and my SO are having some issues. We seem to be…
First post on this app. But I need some advice. Me and my SO are having some issues. We seem to be growing apart. We struggled some before having my son since at first he didn't want more kids (he has 3 from his first marriage) and I wanted at least one. We finally agreed and we're happy. But since having my son, especially in he past few months, we argue more and more. Sex life is happening less and less. It's so tense at home. He blames me for everything. Never thinks he does anything wrong. Holds things he does for me over my head. Makes me feel like I hardly do anything right. If I ever say negative things about stuff he does wrong he jumps down my throat. I've started to resent him...we'll be together 5 years this October. And we have our son. I don't want to break up but I have to think of my well being and our son. I don't want him to grow up around such a negative relationship and environment. I don't see how it's going to change much. He won't go to counseling. It's hard to hard a decent adult conversation with him without it leading to yelling and walking away without resolution or understanding.
Thoughts??
Jenna Tucker·
Мама двоих (1 год, 6 лет)
Okay girl me and SO just went through this I was dead set determined that I was moving out June 1st so I literally just stopped caring about him I acted as if I were a single mom I did everything for myself and my kids and nothing for him I let him do the same he went out last Tuesday got hammered drunk and ended up at a friends house puking his brains out anyways that whole night he was texting me apologizing and I just deadass acted like I could careless and somehow some way acting like i didn't care kick started something in him we sat down talked and he admitted (FINALLY) that we needed to change and get our relationship back we have been focusing on pointing out each others good parts and sneaking in any extra cuddle/alone time we can it's only been a week so I know it leaves plenty of time for things to do a complete 180 back to what they were but I think We were just focusing too much on the negative and not enough on each others good qualities having a baby changes a relationship you just have to figure out how to incorporate your relationship into family life good luck!!
Heather Thomas·
Мама сына-младенца
@beebaby, we haven't tried it at all. He doesn't want to. When I asked him to go, he replied, "you can go" ugh...
Heather Thomas·
Мама сына-младенца
@jennatucker38, I've been trying to do my own thing more and more. Play dates. Meeting other moms and all. He doesn't have really any friends of his own. Him and I usually hang out or used to hang out. He spends time with his kids some weekends. He's just so restless and doesn't like hanging around the house. Makes me antsy.
Erika·
Мама сына (1 год)