Does anybody feel like their marriage hit the rocks when they had a baby? It's been a hard two…

It happens. Having a baby is stressful! And it puts a strain on your relationship as well.

Does it get better as you adjust to the change of having a baby

@tmattera76 I'm. Not married but just had a baby and since she came our relationship definitely has changed ...I can definitely relate. I didn't expect this to happen to us at all.

@ginac, same. We planned our baby and I guess with that I expected it to be joy and happiness. But it's been constant stress and fighting and I never would have expected.

@tmattera76 yes same here well we didn't plan ours but we still are blessed it's still stressful. We moved 2 weeks ago too but we are getting into a routine and it's getting better

@ginac, I hope we get better and into a routine. It's just been hard and I feel very alone and lost

@candidbabex, I'm so sorry to hear that. When I first found out I was pregnant even tho planned he took it hard and I guess it scared him. Then he came around and was amazing the whole pregnancy. And he is so in love with our son. But I don't feel like he's my husband or best friend anymore. He's never home. There's no affection. Everything is a battle. I just am struggling.

@candidbabex, I can see that being frustrating absolutely. My husband works all day and is the one who cooks. But he is out of the house 12 hours. Gets home cooks and falls asleep. So the baby is all me 24/7. No breaks. Weekends he makes plans and is out all day too. When he is home he is super involved but he falls asleep early so during the week I get no help. Weekends don't even feel like a break. And speaking about it gets nowhere good

@candidbabex, that would upset me too. My husband acts like super dad when ppl are around tho. Like he does it all

@tmattera76 try getting into a routine for Sure. It's good for baby too. Bath time at same time every night etc. It's been helping us be less stressed. Hang in there. Ur not alone your list actually helped me not feel so alone knowing ur feeling and going with what I'm going through and feeling and we both have new borns maybe we are right where we're suppose to be?

@ginac, thank you. I needed to hear that. Maybe you're right. Maybe we are. All of my friends seem to talk about their husbands like they're on a pedestal and are nothing but amazing. So I sound like the odd man out when I complain or cry it feels like. So though I don't wish this feeling on anybody. It does bring comfort to know I'm not alone and this could be a normal start to this new life. I had told myself once he turns two months I'd start a real routine. That's tomorrow so I think I'm really going to. I can see how that would really help and pull things together for us.

@tmattera76 people always portray "perfect lives" they are supposedly living... It's behind closed doors is where the the truth lies... I fall into that "grass is greener" rutt sometimes too.... Keep the focus on yourself. Everyone's life is different and we can't compare.... Definitely start with a routine feedings and baths same time give it a week or two ....im always here reach out to chat whenever. And THANK YOU!!!!!! u helped me more then u know today!

@tmattera76 I use this app called baby care and it has helped me a lot maybe check it out

@ginac, I will def check it out now. And it's true. Grass is always greener. So it seems. Thank you. It means a ton to be able to be honest and hear true feedback. Reach out to me anytime as well. :)

Been there twice. Happened with both my ex and my husband. We are finally getting in a routine tho. Starting to look up some

@morganmommy79, I guess I was super naive thinking a baby would bring closeness

@tmattera76, no, I thought the same thing. And for a week it did. That's it tho. Once the new wore off we went right back to being roommates. There's no time like before. No time for sex. No time for a shower. No time for cuddling. Your marriage gets put on hold and if your man doesn't help with the baby you barely see each other. Most men aren't understanding at all and do their own thing.

@morganmommy79, so very true. Sadly. He def does his own thing. Always. And I can't ever just up and go. And when he's home he's tired. It's a project to keep the house together. Plus have a newborn. Plus be the one holding up a marriage. My husband is a pretty sensitive understanding guy. But with this change it's like he's just gone. Sucks for sure. I tell myself as the baby is older and can be more involved In stuff it'll change but who knows

@tmattera76, in most cases it does get better. Men are afraid of babies. When they age you can't get dad off the floor from playing with them. lol there's not much time when you have children. Period. Just the way it is. You have to make time. And guys don't figure they're much help with babies. Moms do such a great job, who could top that? So they stay busy. It's annoying but it takes getting used to. They weren't built with that motherly instinct we have. 😊

@morganmommy79, it's true. I know. My husband loves kids. Anytime we go to family things or friends things he abandons me for the kids ha so I thought with our own he would be a baby hog. But I guess it is the baby stage. He knows I do it all without thought so I guess it makes them think well she got this under control I'm out of here. 🙄

@tmattera76, yes, they should at least help but they take too much comfort in knowing we got this. lol

@morganmommy79, it sucks. He goes out with his brothers til all hours. Then sleeps and gets up to go fishing. Like ok cool I'll just stay home and be the responsible one

My husband is the same way! He loves kids and plays with them etc so I was really excited to see him become a daddy. Boy did he fool me lol. Our son is one and my husband has watched him 1 time and it was so that I could meet with my lawyer. Mommy needs a day out.

@mum2logi, ugh that's so frustrating I'm sorry. The other night I did my first girls night so I had him watch the baby. Just to find out he had his mom come so he could go fishing. I'm like uh seriously

That's something my husband would do if his mom lived closer to us 😒 but at least you got a girls night out lol