@bosw1805, yeah that's pretty much me also because I don't like to be rude or disrespectful or get into anybody's business but I can't say the same for othe rpeople
I had this problem. I spoke with my husband first, that didn't work. I spoke with her (nicely) still didn't work. Spoke with my husband he cursed her out. (Still didn't work) so I cursed her out VERY bad and now we pretty good friend.
my husband and I stopped talking to my in laws including my SOL because they have zero respect and don't know how to keep their nose out of our business.
At first i put up with it. Then i got so fed up and sick with it i told her how i really felt. (Nicest way that i could) she finally stopped her shit. Helped that i had my husband behind me agreeing. Took almost 3 years of her bs till i was just done.