Question. If you lived at home and was hiding your relationship from your parent just so your…
Question. If you lived at home and was hiding your relationship from your parent just so your significant other could stay there, would you be upset with them wanting to move out into their own apartment( a 1 bedroom)? We have a daughter and I'm about to give birth to our son but I haven't found time to tell my mom we are back together and if she finds out she may ask my gf to leave. My gf complains about having to hide and being uncomfortable when I'm in the same shoes as her, not to mention lying to my mom...but if I tell my mom she will have no place to go if she kicks her out. She hasn't saved up money for any kind of place but steadily puts blame on me and the kids for why she hasn't saved up for a place. I honestly feel she just needs someone to blame for why she hasn't saved any money and I'm confused on why she should be able to just move out and leave us here just because SHES uncomfortable and unhappy. I have already started to save money for a place and haven't made any excuses.
Gigi·
Мама дочки-младенца
Kinda seems like it's an excuse for her to be alone.
Bri 🍭·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (37 нед.)
@gigi.marquez1991, thank you. That's exactly what I'm thinking. Sounds like she's just trying to run from responsibility and gain her freedom back and do what she wants
Gigi·
Мама дочки-младенца
Yes that's what it seems like! And I'm telling you this from experience w a woman who has no kids. She's stepped up but it was extremely hard especially when biologically the kids aren't there's.
Bri 🍭·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (37 нед.)
@gigi.marquez1991, yeah I can tell it's hard for her, I just feel after a year of being involved with our daughter that she would feel as if she gave birth to her. Moving out into her own place wouldn't even be an option. I would move out on my own and leave her with the 2 kids. I wouldn't leave her even if we didn't have kids lol
Gigi·
Мама дочки-младенца
Yes definitely you should feel like a team. Not like at any moment they'll up and leave. Maybe the whole secret thing is making things more complicated @wbrianna20,
Bri 🍭·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (37 нед.)
@gigi.marquez1991, exactly! I feel like whatever we go through we go through it together but she speaks as if the kids are just mine and she's here just for help. But I don't feel like that. I feel like she's just as much of their mom as I am. But she just talks about her happiness and how I should be supportive of anything that makes her happy. But I def think the secret is making this a bigger issue but I told her if it's bothering her then she should talk to my mom and tell her. I've just been trying to avoid conflict and avoid giving my mom any reason to ask her to leave but she doesn't see it that way.
Gigi·
Мама дочки-младенца
Yeah see that right there is a red flag! Think about what's best for your kids! If she sees them as just yours?! Then she's not the one you need to be with. I'm assuming she's young.
Bri 🍭·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (37 нед.)
@gigi.marquez1991, we're both 20 so yes. She's still at that point where she wants to have fun, live life and feels like a family has held her back from doing the things she's wanted( college, moving out, and activities she enjoys like smoking)
Gigi·
Мама дочки-младенца
The whole situation just seems really sketchy of her. When your with someone you accept every part of them and that includes kids treating and accepting them as your own. If I were you I'd let her leave! Then see how she acts then. That will tell you everything my S.O wasn't even away for a day and blew my phone up to come back home because she missed the baby and me! She's not once said oh I buy this or that I don't have money to myself. Never once. Just think things through hun is the best advice I can give. Think about your children 👶🏽 @wbrianna20,
Bri 🍭·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (37 нед.)
@gigi.marquez1991, thank you so much, I agree with everything you've stated. I told her if she sees no issue in what she's saying then leave. If her happiness is what's most important right now and this is what she wants then do so. So I told her to save up, and leave and we will see how our family works out. Because I don't know any family that lives in separate places and that works out. But thank you ❤❤❤