Husband is an alcoholic, i know this sounds so. Cliche but i thought us having a baby would change that. Dont get me…

Honestly you cant change him unless he wants to change. My husband is an alcoholic and has been since i met him and our baby is 9 months old and im 5 weeks pregnant and he is finally ready for rehab. But no matter how much i tried i couldn't change him. I just dont buy him any alcohol so im not an enabler and i support him on the days he doesnt drink(since hes trying to quit).

@boymama0908, thank you. Sometimes i feel so alone

@autumnsmomma125, i dont know how you did it. I dont know what kind of drunk yours is but mine treats me so ugly call me out my name and curses me out for not buying him alcohol. I live for mornings and sundays when he cant drink. (His poision is real cheap vodka, i hate the way it smells , i hate how DUMB he looks , i hate seeing him stumbling everywhere. I hate not going out on dates on friday nights cause he is already piss ass drunk right after work and is passed out until midnight smh

I just knew i loved him... Im not sayin you dont. He has been a mean drunk and done unforgivable things.. But i just took it. Maybe i shouldnt have but he has gotten better somewhat. He still has his shit face days that i get frustrated but i do understand you.mine drinks fireball he drinks like a pint or 2 a evening.. And its awful sometimes. But i stuck it out and he is finally realizing what its doing to him and myself and our child.

@autumnsmomma125, well i pray i am as strong as you guys thank you so much . I believe everything happens for a reason

Sadly there is nothing you can do... he has to make that decision for himself, and it typically requires something bad happening... once they hit rock bottom, they finally see it's a problem... and then they have to find the inner strength to fight for sobriety! I grew up in a home with an alcoholic father... I lived in constant fear and anxiety, because he was a wonderful man when he was sober, but you never knew what might set him off and he'd go from happy go lucky to something straight out of a nightmare literally in minutes... my mother was totally codependent... and us kids suffered because she could not find the courage to leave... once he finally quit drinking, and started into a program, she refused to go see a counselor because 'it was his problem, not hers!' I started into a group sessions myself, but she refused to allow my sisters to go, and they have struggled a lot because of that decision... Within a couple years my parent divorced, he had finally become the husband she always wanted... but being codependent she lost her identity because she no longer had someone to clean up after and make excuses for... she left him for someone just as controlling, and had a string of horrible relationships before finally realizing that maybe she did have some issues of her own. I strongly suggest even if he won't go seek help for himself, that you go and seek help for yourself... tackle your own demons... maybe it will inspire him to do the same! There is a reason you fell for an addict, and you need to figure that out about yourself, then maybe you can help your children break the cycle!

Thank you i really am considering going to get help💕.

I believe the same. And it does take a strong women to deal with an alcoholic. But i know you are strong as well❤ Im here if you ever need to talk@bmndz95

@autumnsmomma125, thank you so much.

Yw hun❤

@bmndz95 I feel u my husband was the same we have 5 kids together and am 6 months with a girl I told him ur tearing ur family apart cause of ur drinking and he would always hang out with his uncle who is a big time alcoholic and take him to work I would pick him up all drunk everyday I had enough of it I told him its u stop drinking or we are done as a family for good n it made him open his eyes up and he been sober for 3 months now and am really happy he stop drinking for his family pray that ur SO will stop

Maybe me walking out the door w a bag ...