I wish my husband was all lovely dovey with me. I see all these girls post pictures with their boyfriend or husband…
I wish my husband was all lovely dovey with me. I see all these girls post pictures with their boyfriend or husband kissing or hugging or taking really cute pictures. Mine doesn't do anything like that with me 😔 it makes me feel unloved or unwanted. When I try to be all loving I get pushed away.
Ashley ·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
We don't even sit next to each other in the living room if it makes you feel better
Julia·
Мама троих детей
When we go to bed he's at the other end of the bed and If I move to were he's at he moves away from me. He's very distant all the time now I feel like I'm just a bother. I try and try but nothing. I think I'm just going to stop trying to be all lovey cause he just gets annoyed @mommysbabies,
lindseebee·
My husbands like that, I've told him I need to be touched more. He sort of makes and effort mostly because I say if he wants any he needs to touch me more. But if we are standing around and I try to move closer he moves away, it bugs me but I know he also gets claustrophobic. He's got his own issues I guess, I'm trying to learn to deal with them.
Julia·
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My husband just doesn't want me to ever touch him but gets mad when I don't let him. I honestly feel like he doesn't love me at all. I feel like we just got married for the kids. We are two strangers with kids who are living together. I keep having dreams that he tells me he doesn't love me anymore and he hasn't for awhile and that he wants a divorce @lindseebee, I just feel like I need to stop making an effort if he's not going to.
Kedra·
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I totally feel u
Julia·
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It suck and if I tell him he thinks I'm over reacting. Like earlier I ask him why he can't be romantic and he just shrugged his shoulders and said idk @kedrababy,
Kedra·
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@juliam27, mine does the same exact thing!!! I'm at the point where I'm ready to leave him but you two are married so I'd try to work it out
lindseebee·
Hmm...well some dudes just aren't romantic. That's what my husband tells me anyway.
My husband never, well hardly ever, says he loves me unless I say it first and he looks away from me when he says it, I hate that. My mind goes right to that when we fight. I suppose one day I'll mention it.
What was his life like growing up? Did he have a good example from his parents on relationships?
He's got to have a real answer though about why he doesn't like physical contact. Does he have any emotional connection with you?
Julia·
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His dad wasn't around he ended up in prison. So lived with his uncle and his grandparents. We had a miscarriage last year but he doesn't really think about it. He just said he just doesn't liked being touched. Everyone thinks I'm over reacting but this is an everyday thing. He doesn't even call me babe anymore it's always dude.@lindseebee,
Ken'usha·
I feel you,, I have to get all worked up are threaten him(not bad stuff done) once to take some and act right cause he clowns every time I'll have 🐰ears if I don't take and look at it before posting besides he doesn't like to take pictures are show his feeling some times
Julia·
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@kedrababy, I try to talk to him and I get shut out. Sometimes I feel like giving up maybe then he will start to care.
Julia·
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Mine hates picture and I had scheduled to do family pictures and he didn't want to go so I pretty much felt like a single mother taking pictures with her kids @jerryjrmommy,
lindseebee·
@juliam27, ha, the only time we had family pictures done was probably the last. My husband was pissed the whole time.
Maybe if you stop trying he will get the point or maybe he's just more comfortable being buds? Idk
Ken'usha·
@juliam27 mines too we also did family pictures but my son wasn't born*(didn't even know I was pregnant then) but he had on same colors but I couldn't for the life of me get him to take his hat off 😒he's bald which everyone knows but he didn't want the other couples to see so unfortunately they didn't come out so good and not to forget he never smile but yesterday he did,,,but men's are just men they really don't like the stuff we do are the little cute stuff ,,,have you tried talking to him about it?
Julia·
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I'm just going to not try anymore. It's going to be hard to try not to hug or kiss him but I think I can do it. I feel so unloved and unwanted. Some night I think if I went and slept in the living room would he even notice or what would he do but I don't ever move. @lindseebee,
Julia·
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@jerryjrmommy, I've tried to talk to him about it but he just says he doesn't like taking pictures. He took a bunch of pictures with his ex's before me. What makes me so different. It makes me feel like he's ashamed of me @jerryjrmommy,
lindseebee·
@juliam27, I remember a woman in another mom group I was in had almost the exact same issues with her man. She felt unloved, her man wasn't touchy, she tried so hard but he was almost rejecting her...no point to that other than knowing you aren't alone. If I knew the magic words to make a man open up I would tell you, I struggle with emotional sharing myself.
I hope whatever outcome you are happy.
lindseebee·
@juliam27, I don't know why he'd be ashamed of you? He should be proud to be with you, I'd bet it was more like he's ashamed of himself for some reason.
lindseebee·
@jerryjrmommy, my husband and brother never smile in pictures. This year my brothers family took pictures and he was actually smiling in them, a real smile. Miracles do happen.
Ken'usha·
@juliam27 now that's a problem but would tell him well I'm not your ex and I want memories of us and our family,, and I would feel that way too because that's how he making it seem and that's not okay he's needs to see the beautiful family he has,, and I would say just one (I say it all the time just one and that's all sometimes I would brive him if I have something he really wants are even play the little betting game) trust me I try everything 😂😒
Ken'usha·
@lindseebee yes,, they certainly do that's why I forever believe in the change of any situation are issue
Julia·
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Thanks ladies for talking to me @jerryjrmommy, @lindseebee, he doesn't do things even if I bribe him. He's so stubborn and hard headed. Idk why it's so hard for him to be so loving. I'm jealous of his past relationship because he actually smiles and took pictures with them. With me he's totally the opposite.
Ken'usha·
@juliam27 Anytime mama,, and wow I don't get him but I know everyone is different so that may be the case are that bring back memories maybe