I have a question. I've asked this before and got lots of rude comments but I just need to know if…
I have a question. I've asked this before and got lots of rude comments but I just need to know if I'm alone in this or not.
So, I'm extremely introverted. I don't like being around anyone for long amounts of time, I don't like being in big groups, I don't like a lot of noise or chaos in whatever is going on around me. My daughter is loud, she's rambunctious, and she's always climbing on top of me. She's your normal baby who is curious about the world around her. I'm with her almost 24/7. And honestly, it drains the shit out of me. Once she goes to bed, I don't feel like talking to anyone or doing anything but having a bit of time to my damn self with no noise or conversation.
Is anyone else like this? I love her to pieces, she is quite literally the light of my life. But she drains my social battery completely. I am constantly mentally and physically exhausted from all of her shenanigans and constant clinging. To be quite honest, there's nobody else I would rather spend 24/7 with, but at the same time, I would like friends. But I have no motivation to go anywhere or talk to anyone because I'm just so drained all the time!
Please tell me I'm not alone 😓 I've asked this before and had people tell me I shouldn't have had children, which really hurt my feelies because I love her to death and I do think I'm a good mother.
DhamiPhoenix·
My drs believe I have aspergers and know I have sensory processing disorder. I completely understand the battery drain. Extroverts get their energy from people and introverts get their energy from solo activities. Both are normal. Both types of moms have kids and both types of moms are good moms.
The fact that you work so damn hard to give your daughter your all from the time she is up until the time she goes to bed tells me you have self motivation that would blow extroverts out of the water in comparison if they had to do something that drained them.
You have stamina girl. You get up every day and you work your self to the bone physically, mentally and emotionally and then you keep getting up again and again and again to do it all over again. THAT is what a good mom is made of.
Just because you don't run the soccer league or are the head of the PTO meetings doesn't mean you are less of a mom. You are a good mom.
It's hard to have friends as a mom anyway. When they are little it is REALLY hard. As they get older and go to school it gets easier to have you time and friends. Your environment will change so you will find a friend or two and probably another parent from your kid's school. Hold on mama, you'll get there :)
Btw I have three wonderful children under 5 years old and I am an introvert. I like quiet time at night and no noise once they are asleep. I reboot and am ready for all of the chaos the next day.
You aren't alone.
Keep your chin up darlin' straighten your crown and own your motherhood like the boss you are :)
Shantel Johnson·
Мама дочки (2 года)
I am the same way. I think of it completely normal.
DhamiPhoenix·
@candidbabex, 😊