Would it still be appropriate to call the ex when I go into labor? We are not on good terms.

Since you're questioning it I would say do it. At least you did your part.

Is he the father? If he is then yes its very appropriate

Yes unless he's a danger to you or baby

I would call or message just to let him know I'm in labor but that's about it..

If you feel comfortable with him there while your pushing and all.

He's a very verbally abusive person and he hasn't really changed or done anything to prepare for the baby.

Yeah just let him know. The rest is up to him if he wants to be present or not.

I'd keep it super simple also