My previous marriage I didnt cuddle, hardly kissed and had sex. Deep down I knew he was cheating on me (later found out he was) and I fell into depression. Nothing he said made me feel good. I would smile if he ever did compliment but it was a fake smile. I didn't workout either. I let myself go because I felt he was sleeping with other women. Sometimes you just know.

Ask him whats going on and if he doesn't start putting in work in the relationship communication wise and express his feelings, it wont work out. Also throw in your fear you feel like hes cheating on you but that thats what you are assuming BECAUSE he isn't intimate with you. Have you cheated on him before or talk to other men? In my past I lose trust instantly in that person if I find out they have female friends and hang out alone with them. My current husband hasn't done me wrong in that department but still took me forever to let go and just love him fully. We almost broke things off a few times because of my trust issues.

I wish you the best.

Is he burnt-out? Too much work?

weight gain causes the libido to decrease. If you're the primary cook in the house, start cooking healthy to get him motivated. Weight loss is 80% what you eat and 20% exercise.

I did some FBI work and I found nothing everything was deleted. Or looks the same from two days before. I wish I could find out or get him to open up more.

Oh I see... I would try to wake him up early... sometimes all you need to do is push a lil to encourage him and if you have a gut feeling, always go with the gut feeling.

@natasha.8235, o I workout and tell him to join, he says he rather work out early mornings but he can't wake up and gives excuses how he is just tired. And I tell him all the time how handsome and "yummy " he looks he smiles tells me to shut up but nothing changes. I cater to him but he is only smiling when he is with his friends on the weekends drinking. Monday through Friday no smiling no play time no conversations no cuddle time nothing if I try to just cuddle he says I am smothering him

Sometimes I do feel like he is cheating on me with someone at his job. But I have hope. But I would like to think his weight isn't an issue but that's his excuse. Idk what to think I know I gained weight but I am still a very sexual being, I do have needs. And I know a man has needs to, he has to right ? Is he whacking off while I sleep, is he cheating on me, is he not happy with me anymore? If I ever bring it up he says he isn't cheating he is whacking off he just not in the mood and is disgusted with himself
I wish I knew because I been worried everyday.

I was going through something similar and i did my FBI investigation and came up empty (thankfully) and then realized I should've spoken to him first 🙄 he was feeling self conscious cause of his weight and something's going on at work so his entire self esteem was just low. I asked him to help me workout and next thing I know he's joining in with me and I've been celebrating small accomplishments and telling him how sexy he looks when he's dressed up... it's only been 2/3 weeks of this but I see him happier so hopefully we continue and hopefully this helps you.... men need to be told their handsome, and celebrated as well😊

I have been threw this but we weren't married and it was with my daughters daddy he never wanted to be passionate with me and after awhile he started sleeping on the couch. I say go with your gut your instincts are never wrong! I had come to found out he was cheating on me he had another girlfriend while he was with me and we had lived together & my daughter was only 3 months. I really hope this isn't the case for you but if I were you I'd definitely investigate it lol us woman are like the FBI when it comes to that

A lot of the time a persons self esteem is the biggest issue when it comes to showing love for your partner. For me weight is an issue when it comes to that. When I'm more in shape my husband and I have better sex because I feel more confident about myself and am more open. My husband also sometimes doesn't perform with the same passion if he feels self conscious about something on his end. You should bring this up to him if you haven't already and maybe talk more about what you both can do to make him feel better about his weight.