Yes that would b nice for ur husband to talk with her but my husband though me and Tyler need to work it out on are own too... So we did it will take time but keep up what ur doing...

How often does she see her mom or what is the schedule like for her just asking to try and give u some tools that may help u out momma. If u want to private massage me u can if u don't want it open

@crystalashby86, @_mama.mia_,

My husband tells me that it's something I need to work out with her, that we need to figure it out and that he doesn't need to be involved. I feel like he should sit down with her and talk to her about how to treat me. That I'm not her maid, and she can't boss me around just because she's angry and that she has to listen to me.

I have started doing that kind of thing too, and she has started to understand how it hurts me when she does things and makes mean comments. It's just really hard because I feel like I'm talking to a different child than the one I've been raising, I guess she is just now getting to a place where she is understanding that there's mommy and daddy and then there's Mia.

Yes mine is 13 now and I came in his life when he was two too... I know this sounds really mean but when ty went through it I would treat him the way he was treating me and would explain that I was acting that way bc that's how he acts towards me it only took a few times and he realized that it was no fun being treated like that like I said I know it sounds mean but it shows them how ur feelings not just telling it makes it easier for them to understand... Like he would say ur not my mom I dnt have to listen to u so when he would want somethings I would say I'm sorry but I'm not ur mom so no it can't help u or if he would just ignore me I would ignore him and look at him once and say I'm not talking to u bc early u were ignoring me so now I will ignore u.. Later that day I would set down and talk with him about how he felt when I treated him this way and explain that this is also how he is making me fell and he stopped after just a few days...

@beestephenson, what does your husband say about it?

Yeah but don't think she understands what she's feeling.

@beestephenson, Have you tried talking to her about it?

It's hard being the extra parent, I'm going through a tough time with her right now. I've been in her life since she was 2, she's 5 now and she acts like she doesn't want me around anymore. And we have always been really close, it's breaking my heart.

@beestephenson, Yep. I'm a step mom of a 9 year old.