I don't understand how family works!? my side of the family won't cooperate with my SO's side of the…

I don't understand how family works!? my side of the family won't cooperate with my SO's side of the family and visa versa😒 then my dad's side of the family barley exists. my mom's side is split in two as well. then my SO's parents are split. everyone wants to see our daughter but they don't plan anything with me and get mad at me when my schedule doesn't work out for them. if I had it my way my daughter would be staying home with me and never leave but I know she has good experiences with other family just that family brings her back to me and shes an emotional mess. so I don't even want her going out if they can't manage to stop stressing me out when I'm being nice to them letting them spend time with my baby. they also need to stop parenting different than me I'm the parent my way goes😬 I'm about to revoke all baby visits so I can live stress free and focus on my baby's future.