I feel really stressed, torn, and guilty right now, in spite of all the excitement of finding out we're expecting again. We have this guy staying in our spare bedroom (he is paying a little) and it's coming up on a year even though it was only supposed to be for a few months. We've kind of let it slide that he's not been looking for other arrangements because he's a friend, but now we're going to need our spare bedroom back for a nursery ( I JUST got our toddler out of our room, I do not plan on screwing that up by making her share with the new baby). So here's where the overwhelming emotions and stress comes in. We really need to give our friend as much notice as humanly possible because we want him out with enough time to give us a couple months to get the nursery ready. It's pretty much March already and we're thinking August 1st at the latest because I'm due early-mid October and no1 was over 2weeks early. So I am SUPER torn about telling him before anyone else. On the one hand, he needs plenty of time to find adequate housing (nevermind how hard keeping it secret for even 3 days has been since it's a small one bathroom house), on the other the thought of telling him before my mother and grandmother makes me want to vomit more than I already have been. All while I feel super guilty about the thought of waiting another month and a half to two months to tell him he has to gtfo. I feel like no matter what I do, I'm going to make the wrong choice.