When your baby father is no help all he do is call and ask for pictures and show his face here and…

Guys are stupid no your not in the wrong! It's hurtful my fiancé did the same it ended us. Then we got back together. Now he tries for our son and we are having another and it's funny because he is making sure everything goes better

Yea it is hurtful because I don't get how you can say you love your child more than life itself but your not treating her that way . I'm not saying he's a bad father because he's not but it's a big difference in how he's involved with her versus his other 2 . I know our baby is only a 4 weeks tomorrow but still . I think Ima let it go until he comes back over maybe il get through talking to him to his face . So he know how serious I am but know that I'm not attacking him or belittling him at the same time . I'm glad it worked out for y'all 😊and congrats on the new bundle to come @mimiroxy16,

Its seems like your allowing him to make you child and option and not a priority. Where the other kids mom is not having it. It seems like he knows that you rather have him as a half of a father and will settle vs. Speaking up for your child.

None of my business but is still with the other kids mom? Or benefiting from here sexually?

No the other mom is very loud and demanding bosses him around tell him what he's going to do . And I'm not like that I'd do it all before I make

Someone think I need there help . And I haven't needed help which is I haven't demanding him to do anything I just expected that he would and he's not as much as he should . The other mom is not with him they have a very toxic relationship . And I'm not with him either nor sleeping with at all haven't slept with him since I was 3 months pregnant . So he's not benefiting from anything besides that I don't nag him and I do everything all on my own . @nelzey0610,

I just want to keep the peace and I expect to much and get not enough in return . Which is why I decided to text him how I felt but he didn't even reply nor call or anything today so I know he's now avoiding me because he's not use to me speaking to him the way I did . I rather him said something back even if it wasn't nothing worth saying then to just ignore me like he's not in the wrong . Now when I see him I have to be a bitch to him and I just want to keep the peace but it doesn't look like I can if I want him to be a real dad @nelzey0610,

Yes we never talked it out I told him not to bring his other kid around it got bad. It was because of him to how he treated my son. I honestly didn't even think you can treat a newborn badly. Like I was shocked. We fought and fought. Just don't let it get to where we got to because it wasn't healthy. For either kid or us. I disliked him for ruining the first experience because of how he was. It wasn't fair. Your daughter is also just as important as his others. Never let him make excuses. Don't ever let him do that!

@mimiroxy16, and that's what I don't want all the fighting or the toxic mess . But your right about not letting him make excuses . Which is why I said something to him even though he didn't engage in the convo smh. I just woke up this morning and looked at her and how special she is and it just made me mad. Like how can you not be here for her on a reg how can you just go about your day seeing your other 2 and not do all you can to make sure you see her to ? I don't get it !! But things are going to change !!! My babygirl deserves it all and I won't allow him to give her any less !!

@jeanetta25 i completely​ understand from your side. The fact that you want him in your childs life and not asking for anything is the same way i am with my kids father. But hes learned that i wont supply anything for them when he has them. Now he calls and say hey i got this or that for the kids. I still tell him ok keep it at your place for when they come they good over here. He should be very grateful

Thank you for pointing out that I'm allowing him to make her an option instead a priority I didn't see that ! And I am doing that by letting him and his excuses be okay. And that's not fair to my princess . And that's all going to change real soon !! I just hate to be the bad guy even when I know I should . That's always been a problem for me 😔@nelzey0610,

Yeah it isn't good to fight. But if you don't step up and say something now it can get out of hands. My fiancé like I want this family as we couldn't move out for like two years because he was going and spending more then four hundred every weekend on his other kid and would scream at me if I told him we don't have the money. It was crazy. Finally he learned this family has to come first in some ways because if he wants us always here he has to treat us good