I have friends that are 22 dating 30 year old men that don't have jobs, can't drives, and live in…

I have friends that are 22 dating 30 year old men that don't have jobs, can't drives, and live in their moms basement. Then these girls act all surprised when he doesn't claim his baby and wants nothing to do with her. Someone please, for the love of God, tell me why it's a surprise!!! You knew he wasn't shit and now you act surprised that he ain't shit?!?!? I'm sorry but sometimes people can not play the victim.