So my SO side of the family really never comes around to see my daughter i can count on my hand how…

So my SO side of the family really never comes around to see my daughter i can count on my hand how often they have seen her in 12 months but they post on social media like they see her all the time which annoys the crap out of me so the other day my SO mother did it and my SO finally called her out and said maybe she should try actually coming to see our daughter she responded by saying she was sick so I responded you haven't been sick for 1 year and she got really mad that we commented that on her fb where ppl can see it (those were her words exactly) so I finally explained to her my problem and that I don't appreciate them not coming by to see her or at least texting to see how she is she ignored me sooo then today she texted me asking if I was going anywhere I told her no bc my daughter is cranky and not feeling well so im just at home watching cartoons with her she replied ok and that was the end of the conversation now my friend is saying I'm part of the problem cause I told her she couldn't come! I never told her she can't come i just said no im not going anywhere cause my daughter doesnt feel well! Thays through truth! Wth how am I the bad guy! He is saying i should have offered another day and time like no thays not my job if she wants to see her granddaughter ahe can make an actual effort