*Just need advice* So my boyfriend has a older son he's 5 he has visitations with him. He's suppose…

@beebaby, well I shouldn't be watching him then. If I cannot tell him to sit down or go take a nap when he's acting up.

you should be able to discipline him as far as time outs naps and corner but physical punishment should be left for his dad until y'all work out what's okay and what's not but sounds like the parents need to sit him down and teach him to respect what you say because you are still the adult and in charge , he's a child there's no reason he should be disrespectful towards you or the baby.

i have a similar problem with my step son. his Mom has told me to tell him off but my husband gets angry with me when i tell him off. The way i see it is if your child is going to be a little shit towards me i will tell him off, otherwise he will never respect you. sometimes you just have to take control and have authority otherwise the dads let the child walk all over you

@marandagriffith95, yeah I don't want to beat him he's not my child that's not my place. but if he is going to be left with me he shouldn't be able to do whatever he wants to do I don't allow it from my nieces and nephews and there around his age and they don't even act like that and it frustrates me because when I try to tell his dad how to deal he feels like I'm judging his parenting.

@cocoa yeah that's exactly how it is but I won't hit him he's not my child but I should be able to tell him something when he's in my house and I'm watching him while his dad is at work really don't want him to act out because there is a new baby because I am a FTM and everything is going to be new and I'm going to have my hands full already.

Yeah it's hard to get through to some parents because they feel attacked when you try to help my fiance and I have the same problems with my five year old sometimes he doesn't like to listen to him but he approaches him differently than I do , it's hard parenting with someone else's kid sometimes just do what you can and if he don't let you do even time outs I wouldn't watch him because your right 5 yr olds shouldn't be running wild causing trouble they know better by that age

@marandagriffith95, yeah I'm not trying to attack him I'm just trying to make it easier on everybody because I know if you stick to a routine with a child then they'll eventually get it and start acting right.

@mommy1987, that's exactly how I feel ! If I can't get him to act right with me I shouldn't be watching him. He needs to get him right because I'm going to have my hands full with a new born and he is to old to be acting like he's a baby

if your boyfriend doesn't like you disciplining him, I'm not saying put your hands on the kid. but timeouts, taking his favorite toys etc. then he needs to find him a babysitter or take him to daycare. You shouldn't have to put up with that especially if you're trying to help watch him.

yeah no i would never hit my step son, not even my own kids but i will tell him whats up, my step son is 6 and is at that age where they push to see where the limit is, you have to tell then when enough is enough, they need it. my step son used to get smart to me and back chat but my husband just let it slide, one day i just snapped and my angry mommy voice came out which he had never heard before and he now is an angel with me, it hurts when they get upset about it but it has to happen, be strong momma and he will respect you later on :)