so I have a few questions and maybe you all can help me today is me and my boyfriend's 2 year…
so I have a few questions and maybe you all can help me today is me and my boyfriend's 2 year anniversary we have her little one that's almost a year old and another one on the way. this past Christmas he delayed ordering my engagement ring so he postponed the engagement date to today or tomorrow I haven't seen any sign of a ring whatsoever he hasn't even talked about it. what hurts me the most is that it's taken two years and basically two children and he hasn't gotten around to asking me to marry him he was engaged before when he was a lot younger to another girl that cheated on him and treated him like crap she never got her pregnant they never even had a child but he had gotten engaged to her I just don't understand I feel like I'm the second option and I will always be I know that if this would have been her he would have gone out of his way to buy her the best engagement ring long ago I just don't know why this is happening any advice???
Starsnstripes·
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This is all opinion based on my past:
Let him do it when he's ready, especially on Commitment. No rush. Men can be simple minded while our minds go 20 different directions. Has he been jealous? Has he shown to be territorial? Do you have male friends? Are you giving him enough attention or going out on dates, just you and him? Have yall second guessed your relationship to each other or he to you?
No offense to you, alot of people that have been cheated on will have a hard time trusting someone no matter if you never leave the house and talk to no one else, or have never cheated before. I love my husband to death, he's never cheated on me or I on him, and I still don't fully trust him 100%. It's not him, it's my past and the shitty experiences and empty promises from since I was young. We lose hope on people and not until we've known someone longer than a few yrs and haven't been screwed over by them will we start trusting them more and more. It goes uphill, trust does. There might be a small set back or 2, but gotta keep working on it.
I hope that helped any.
Other assumptions:
•He's short on cash and had to postpone engagement?
•He wants to surprise you, so he told a white lie since you know what's coming.
and some word of advice:
Don't talk about exes. (Does he talk about her and their past? or during arguments do you bring her up? If you bring her up, don't expect him to fully get over things.)
Who cares if she got the best engagement ring ages ago? You are what makes it best. You're love for each other. It's unique. F*ck everyone else. Focus on you both and the kids.
Best of luck!