Ok ladies I have a question.. my mother-in-laws mom announced when scarlet was born before we did…

Ok ladies I have a question.. my mother-in-laws mom announced when scarlet was born before we did knowing we didn't want it on Facebook until after we were home because we didn't want to be having a lot of visitors but she posted it anyway and now she's complaining that we never go bring the baby to go see her but she lives 2HOURS away and she always tells my husband I'm not a good mom and things like that so I told her if she had a problem with me then she had a problem with our daughter because she's half of me and if she wanted to see Scarlet then she can drive because I'm not going to drive two hours there and two hours back with a newborn am I over reacting?