So I've been feeling a lil down lately because I feel like I'm not as active with my kids as I think I should be... I…
So I've been feeling a lil down lately because I feel like I'm not as active with my kids as I think I should be... I feel like I had them at a time, Where in my head I gave up on having children. So when I found out I was pregnant I was so happy and surprised but still kind of felt a disconnect, because I was already set in my way and use to being by myself, taking care of myself and content with no responsibilities (Kid wise)... so when they were born it kind of took a toll on my mental especially being the fact it was two one time.... I don't know how some people do it with multiples and continue to have kids after cause lawd knows mentally it put a strain on me.... but its gotten better over the years cause I've adjusted to mother hood... but I feel guilty at time cause I enjoy the pleasure of them going to school and when their Aunts\grandma pick them up and take them out... I feel I enjoy the silence of them being gone way too much at times... I Miss them but I'm not in a rush for them to come back... So I guess I'm am wondering am I the only one who has felt this way or is still feeling this way??... please don't Judge me!!
Allie ·
You're definitely not alone.
I was 19 when I became pregnant with my two (twin girls). I had decided prior that I didn't want children. I was on birth control and just knew that it would never happen. Clearly I was wrong.
I went from doing whatever I wanted, to having to be responsible for two other people... by myself. I had no idea how I was going to achieve this.
Throughout my pregnancy (which was short lived due to an incompetent uterus?) I had no connection. And didn't until I saw my babies fighting for their lives in the NICU.
I think, it's okay to need time for yourself. Lord knows I get excited when somebody offers to keep my girls for a little while. I deserve me time. I deserve to be happy, and when I'm happy, my girls are happy.
You're human. We all get used to the way things are so when change happens it shocks us. Sometimes it even leaves us thinking "what the heck?!" But that's okay. We pick ourselves up, and keep it moving.
You've got this!
MamaInNY·
Мама двоих (младенец)
take time daily atleast an hour get on the floor and play with them. take pics
Brittney Martin·
Мама двоих (3 года, 3 года)
@achappex3, Thank you!! I feel relieved someone understands... I also suffered from an incompetent uterus... I had them at 28 weeks.... they were in the NICU for 6 weeks... I never once took a minute
For myself cause I was in that NICU every day from early in the morning to late at night barely getting sleep to make sure they were okay and they could feel my presence at all times... so when they were finally able to come home it was sooo much of an eye opener that I started shutting down emotionally cause I was focusing on making sure they were good at all times I was scared cause they were soooo tiny... and the responsibility to have to care for them without the help of the nurses.... OMGEEEE.... it was just a lot all at once
Brittney Martin·
Мама двоих (3 года, 3 года)
@yahuahsdaughter, thank you!!! Will do!!
Allie ·
Exactly. You're fine. Just take a breather. I'm here if you want to talk.
Brittney Martin·
Мама двоих (3 года, 3 года)
Thank You...appreciate that!! @achappex3,
Allie ·
Absolutely no problem.
Brittney Martin·
Мама двоих (3 года, 3 года)
Thank you!!! I appreciate it!!
Brittney Martin·
Мама двоих (3 года, 3 года)
How is it having 4tho?? @busybeemommy
Brittney Martin·
Мама двоих (3 года, 3 года)
@busybeemommy, yes I have twin 3 year olds
Brittney Martin·
Мама двоих (3 года, 3 года)
@busybeemommy, I do apologize for just responding I wasn't getting my notifications for this app... Yeah I could imagine the whole teen stage they go threw so many emotions... I know I sure did as a teen
Brittney Martin·
Мама двоих (3 года, 3 года)
Awwwwwww.... girl I know the feeling and mine aren't even teens yet