Hi mamas, I'm hoping someone can give me some advice or maybe has gone through the same thing. My son's dad, who he hasn't seen in three years , is starting to text me telling me that if I don't let him talk to my son more often he's going to resort to legal action. We had a mediation a few months ago where his attorney and my attorney met up to agree on some things about my son. One agreement was that my son and his dad would face time three times a week . His dad lives in Washington and my son and I live in Honolulu. I've been trying to keep up with three times a week but it's actually a lot harder than everyone thinks. My son cries because he doesn't want to sit down and talk to his dad. When he does agree to he talks for literally a minute and wants to hide or run away from the phone. I text his dad and tell him that when we miss face time it's because my son doesn't want to do it and hes only four so he doesn't sit still for more than a minute. He doesn't understand the importance of this yet. I don't wanna force him. His dad tells me that we are the parents and we need to tell him what to do sometimes. It frustrates me when he sais things like that because he hasn't done anything for my son in almost his whole life. I don't even get child support and he tries to tell me how to raise our son.

I am now married and have a two month old with my husband who I met here in Hawaii. The relationship with my sons dad was an abusive one so that is why I left and moved to Honolulu to be close to family. His dad has already hired two attorneys in the past three years ( causing me to hire attorneys as well which was sooo expensive ) and he even came to Hawaii in 2014 and tried to take my son with him without my permission. Still though, Washington law requires that my son still sees his dad regardless of past situations. I'm so frustrated. I don't want to pay any more money to a lawyer. I just want to move on and most of all give my son the life he deserves. Does anyone think I'm being unfair when I don't make my son face time on some days ? I don't think it's right for my son to be forced to do something he doesn't want to. Sorry for the long rant I just don't know anyone who has experienced anything like this. Sometimes I get so worried and stressed.