I wanted to come back and also give you an example of a good way to communicate your anger… you might find yourself saying something like, "you are pissing me off so much! I hate when you do that!" What you can say instead is… "I feel really angry and hurt that you did that, I need you to respect me moving forward." Generally, say how you feel (feelings are things like sad, hurt, angry, overwhelmed, disappointed, happy, excited, annoyed), and then say what you need in order to feel better.

Hi, I am new here, so I don't know anything about you… First I'd like to say that Valentine's Day babies are the best! Your son and I share a birthday LOL. Now I'll try to answer your question as best as possible… there's a quote that says, "if you explain your anger rather than expressing it, you immediately open the door to solutions." I think when you are angry, it's super important to take a pause and check yourself before you speak. It's OK to be angry about something, it is not OK to be a butt head about it. Try talking with the goal of resolving the issue. If you feel things are getting too heated, communicate with your partner and say, "listen, this is really important to me to resolve, but I am getting very angry and I need to take a break. I'm going to walk away and we will come back to this later when I am calmer." The basic rules of fair fighting are…
1. No put downs
2. No name calling
3. Stay on topic
4. Walk away if things get too heated.
5. Don't worry about who's right and who's wrong, focus on the goal of resolving your issues.

And if all else fails, don't be afraid to do couples counseling together. It really does help to learn more ways to communicate with one another. And don't forget to listen and consider each other's feelings.