Can anyone give some REAL advise? I'm sure I've heard it all, but just to be blunt here..I HAVE A…
Can anyone give some REAL advise? I'm sure I've heard it all, but just to be blunt here..I HAVE A MOTHER IN LAW FROM HELL. She tops all of the "MIL from hell"! She doesn't listen to me when it comes to my son or anything, quite frankly. And as all mothers know, your the voice for your child. Only 1 problem...I apparently don't have one (well, not one that matters atleast) I say yes, she says no. I tell her one thing, she does the opposite. Or. The infamous, "I know what's best for him because I've raised my kids..." yeah.. IN THE 80's! Talk about "stuck in her ways". So much has changed, developed, made new or differently. But she refuses to let me raise my kid on my own, try something differently or my way, and I just can't do anything right by her! Basically, I'm the BIGGEST living idiot on this earth according to her! I'm at a loss here. I can't win. And as much as I'd LOVE to say something about it, I still have to respect her. I'm going out of my mind trying to be the best Mom, and still please her. But, all I get, is shit from her! And. THE WORST PART, my boyfriend doesn't back me up! EVER! Being new to this, let's just say, I have not a single ounce of confidence left in myself anymore.
dawn·
you have to respect her but her HAS to respect you too! I would sit down with her and be very honest in a respectful way and tell her, you are the mother to your child and you respect her opinion and advice but you will raise YOUR child as you see fit. Let her know you feel she is stepping on your toes and you would appreciate her backing the fuck up.
dawn·
tell your bf if you two are his family now and he needs to back you up, and have your back 100%
Veeeee·
Мама сына-младенца
I wish you guys knew her because it's not that easy. her and I have no friendship or common respect relationship. she is so used to it being her way. she has two other daughters who just...fall into her lap. whatever she says..goes. and that's why my boyfriend agrees with her. don't get me wrong, there's been times where he said something to her. but she will just talk over us/anyone and demand that it be done her way. for example. At my son's baptism, she kept him from the rest of the party, refused to let my side of family TOUCH him, and just kept trying to put him to sleep. basically she was in the corner of the room, keeping him away from anyone, trying to put him to sleep. His one and only baptism and I have all these pictures of him sleeping. and when I tried to steal my child back from her, she turned around and refused to hand him to me. and that's when my boyfriend said he needs to sleep. but. he didn't. and idc, I'm the mother.
anyways. it's them against me. I'm always loosing. I'm going crazy.
Veeeee·
Мама сына-младенца
@dawnrose @beebaby
Veeeee·
Мама сына-младенца
@beebaby I know. I definitely need to grow a pair. I'm honestly just trying to keep the peace. but the truth is, what's the point of that if I'm so aggravated in my own head. Everything she does is so passive-aggressive. it's always a test. she is truly trying to kill me. I guess I just need to put my fucking foot down and what I say goes. what's she gonna do? kill me?
Veeeee·
Мама сына-младенца
@beebaby sorta. she lives here on weekends.
dawn·
if you don't put a stop to it she's going to keep doing what she does you need need to just let her know you won't stand for it even if it causes a strain on you and your boyfriend's relationship. maybe respect needs to go out the window when you need to be bluntly honest with her. stand your ground and stay firm. if you don't stand up to her nothing is going to change