Hypothetically... you have step kids and your husband files for custody because he wants more time…

I love my step sons so it wouldn't bother me. He works most of the time and I'm with them from Thursday or Friday morning until Sunday evening

@lucifermommy, so you have 3 plus his 1? So 4 total?

I don't have any step kids but my 2 oldest are my husbands step sons if tables were to turn I know he wouldn't mind, neither would I.. i would know what I was getting myself into when he would first file for custody..

I have my step kids friday-tuesday. my fiance works from 6am-4:30 pm. he comes home, eats with the kids, they get showered then play in their play room till around 7 then go to their rooms for bed and cartoons till 8 when tv goes off. weekends he logs and works on vehicles and stuff. I have my step kids All the time. I love them so much. but it is extremely hard sometimes especially since their mother is sketchy on when and if she picks them up. so I can't schedule appointments for my son and I unless it's a Wednesday or thursday. And I can't spend time with family either while they are here bc I don't have the vehicle to transport all of them, and they don't listen very well.

I have 2 step sons, and my son and am currently pregnant with another boy.

i have 1 and he has the 2 boys from a previous marriage.

Well, I mean they shouldn't be treated no different yours. It's a privilege for someone to care so much about you that they are willing to share their kids with you. I don't believe in step anything. My husband and I have 4 kids, the 3 older are from my first marriage. But he says they are his. He treats them no different then our son together. I wouldn't have a problem with it. Especially if he is always working to provide for not only his kids but you all. When you are married it's a team. Yours and mine become ours.

exactly what @kandidenise1989 said. I am one of 8 kids my mom has 2 and my dad has 5 and they have my together and I have no step or half siblings. My SO's boys are my boys too

@allyk.xmommy, see I don't see anything wrong with that because your husband is actually there to help. But what if he wasn't there to help. What if the only time he sees them is to bring them to school? He is home 2 of those 5 days and the other 3 days you're doing it by yourself. Would you still be okay with that??

@kandidenise1989, @lucifermommy, I'm not saying they should be treated any diff. But I'm feeling overwhelmed here. My husband daughter comes over 2 times a week now. Those days my husband is home. I have an almost 2 year old and a newborn and it can be hard just because he works all the time. Like comes home at 1 or 2 in the morning so I'm basically taking care of our kids. He wants to file joint custody for his other kid because he wants her here more BUT he isn't here so she is gonna be with me and I just don't think that's fair. If he want to spend more time with his child then I think he should be here more as well. I'm already not thrilled we have 2 that I'm primarily raising and we recently had a discussion saying unless his schedule Changed we aren't having anymore kids. And now all of a sudden he wants to get 50/50 with his daughter so she would be my responsibility because he works and that just isn't fair to me. Married or not I don't mind helping but he needs to be home more in my eyes to help with these all the kids

that's the thing, even when he's here, he only sees the kids from 5pm-8pm. but inbetween all that time, I'm doing everything. he plays gta5. don't get me wrong, I love him and he works hard, but helps would be nice

@allyk.xmommy, well then that's pointless to me. See that's the situation I don't wanna be in. If he want to be with his other kid more it's a team effort here. Not just be put on me to do everything that's not fair to me. I'm not trying to file for custody . So I'm not settling for that...

No. I have three of my own kids and both of his have special needs. One has autism and one is listed as a sexual offender at age 7. She's abused my 6 year old. So no.

@marliemacieowensmomma, damn sorry to hear that

yea. it's extremely difficult, but our living environment is much better than their mothers, she isn't a good person. so I rather them here

I know the feeling of having stepkids half the time of the month. Is there a way that your husband can find a job where he's home more to help with the kids? I don't think it is fair to you at all. It can definitely be overwhelming at times being a stepmom and a mother. @sexii_diiva,