So just a thought, my family, as most older people do, think they know best. my sister has a 1 year old, and I have an…
So just a thought, my family, as most older people do, think they know best. my sister has a 1 year old, and I have an almost 2 month old. our cousin has 4 children from 4 months to 5 years. sometimes my husband and I will take our son to visit my grandparents and my grandmother will ask me questions like "is your sister STILL letting that baby sleep in the bed with her?" "she is STILL breastfeeding?!" when I was still pregnant my parents would corner me by saying things like "maybe we will actually get to be grandparents to this baby." "you better bring this one around, your sister never does" it's a long story as to why my sister and I aren't fond of our parents house, its not a fit environment for small children. but anyway, my sister and I have very similar views in parents and how we want to raise our boys. we both breastfeed (and plan on doing so until they are ready to wean themselves) cosleep, etc. and I just know they're gonna say all these things behind my back as well. they ask me literally every time they see me "where is he sleeping" half the time I want to ask why it matters just to see them fumble for a response, but I just tell them close by. I haven't told any of my family besides my sister that I cosleep because I know they'll have an unnecessarily loud opinion about it. but I think I'm to the point I'm not gonna be quieted about what I think is right. and for my family, cosleeping, breastfeeding, baby wearing, is right. even if no one else in my family has done any of that. sorry for the rant, anyone else have issues with family like this?
Carmela·
Мама дочки-младенца
No need to be sorry at all! 😊 I think most, if not all, of us mamas are "mom shamed" or just given unwanted advice. I coslept with my baby girl and sometimes still do if I'm not feeling good and just need her close by so I can take care of her when she woke up in the middle of the night. My mother in law tried to tell me one day (in a "nice" and passive way) that it could be dangerous. I kind of laughed it off and made light of it lol! But my mom... omg! Lol! She's INTENSE with what she thinks my baby needs. Suuuuuper clingy!! But I just take a deep breath and remember that she means well and she's just happy and excited to be with her granddaughter
Carmela·
Мама дочки-младенца
But I agree! You know what's best for you and your baby 😊❤️ it doesn't even matter what they say behind your back or in your face..
Sari·
Мама двоих (младенец)
My boyfriend's family is very opinionated, I've learned to ignore it because I know they're just old fashioned and uneducated on a lot of stuff. His cousin puts her baby in a thick coat in his car seat, they don't believe in co sleeping, they think you can spoil a new born and that giving babies cereal helps them sleep longer and they almost had a heart attack when I told them I don't eat dairy and I'm not giving my son cows milk when he's one. Some people are just uneducated, others are just blatantly ignorant. YOU and ONLY YOU know what's best for your child and if they're constantly negative and making unnecessary commentary, I would tell them how I feel and if it continues I would stop bringing my child around them. Cause' when your child's older, it won't be good for them to be around people like that.
Ashley Kiniry·
Мама сына-младенца
@mrs.carmdi you're very right, it doesnt matter! i find the parenting differences between generations really interesting! I've read that millennials are generally more into gentle parenting and things like I talked about in my post, as opposed to the past two generations, which is why this post is even relevant lol. I know they mean well, all the parenting rules will be different when our kids have kids and we will probably do the same lol
Carmela·
Мама дочки-младенца
Lol!!! You're probably right! Then we'll look back and just shake our heads 😂 oh well! All we can really do is our best 😊 stay strong, mama!
Ashley Kiniry·
Мама сына-младенца
@sarisings omg yes!! I get that "you're going to spoil that baby, he uses you as a pacifier" ummm, he is 7 weeks old I can't spoil him he needs closeness lol and pacifiers were made to replace mommas so he is using my breast for its intended purpose
Sari·
Мама двоих (младенец)
People are crazy. They truly believe babies can "manipulate" at that age. My son will only be small this once, I'm going to hold and cuddle him as much as I please.